feelin' kinda down
Posted
Friday, April 04, 2008 12:58 PM
Maybe its the gray skies outside...
So, I have another blog... a myspace blog. Its really the best way for me to keep in touch with all of my far flung family and friends. A lot of people tell me they love to read those blogs because they know what's going on and I make them laugh.
I started blogging over here because I'm really not sure how much those not engaged, already married (some divorced) people can take of wedding planning nonsense. (well, it isn't nonsense to me!)
At any rate, both members of my BP are myspace friends... and E posted an announcement that she got a job offer and would probably be moving out to CA. This is great for her. I'm happy for her!! Especially if this is what she wants to do. (She's going to be doing political activist/grass roots stuff).
However, she comments me and tells me that this may change her plans for October, but she'll keep me updated and let me know before the last minute. She even got sort of condescending and told me not to stress and that everything would work out.
Now, if you ask me, we're past the last minute here for picking bridesmaids.
(After reading alloyd14.googlepages.com I realize that there is still plenty of time for groomsmen.)
I asked her to be my bride's maid a year and a half ago. It shouldn't be just plans anymore, like she's just coming for a visit.
And so, I'm left wondering what she considers the last minute... a month, two? Three weeks?
I've been talking to my mom about it, and she's saying that my little brother (the MOH) just doesn't get that he can't tell me what to do... that its OUR wedding, and he's welcome to suggest, but we don't have to do what he thinks. He's even gone so far as to accuse us of trying to show off because of the cost of the catering. (Which is actually reasonably inexpensive for NYC.)
My mom says she's going to have a heart to heart lunch with E (out of the presence of my brother) because she thinks E is getting my brother's cynicism in with things, and not getting the true story. That her information is tainted. (Mom's words, not mine.) At this point though, I'm starting to feel bad about asking either one of them. I want to tell both of them to take a hike, because its scary enough without them being so.... I don't know... cynical.
And then there's my mom, who's trying to keep my feet on the ground about this and tell me "its just a party."
It sure doesn't feel like "just a party" to me, let me tell ya.