Disappointed in bridesmaids after the wedding
Posted
Thursday, January 17, 2008 10:41 PM
I just got married in October and had 3 friends as bridesmaids (2 old HS friends and one good ex-co-worker). My bridesmaids had very little to do for my wedding, as we had a destination wedding...they just came along for dress shopping and helped with the bachelorette party planning. The wedding went off without a hitch, but I was kind of disappointed the lack of interest my bridesmaids had in the wedding, in terms of trying to ask if I needed any help. Granted, my bridesmaids are all 3 single city ladies and have FT jobs, etc. - I was just hoping that they would provide some 'sister-like' compassion for me and my wedding planning days. I don't have any siblings, so was hoping for a hand to hold or some caring words or something. I wasn't a bridezilla at all
Now after the fact, I feel as if nothing has changed in terms of my relationship with them from my efforts..I still email, call regularly and try to hang out with them as before. But even more so now, I feel like they don't even want to hang out with me...and that they are just sulking on their own. They all complain about their work, personal lives, etc., but don't try to do anything about it...and it drives me nuts too...kind of off subjuect! So I don't know if they are jealous or what. I'm completely fed up with all of my now post-wedding efforts to hang with them, that I almost feel that it is not worth it to keep them in the 'good friends' group anymore. Maybe I need to just stick with our 'couples' friends that HAVE been there to support us through our journey.
Has anyone else experienced this??