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Baby Admiration & Wake Up Call

Posted Tuesday, February 19, 2008 11:52 PM

Oh baby.  I hang out  here and usually feel like the odd ball, but ignore that because I LOVE my fellow nesties and I started with The Nest after using The Knot & I’m addicted!  And most of you know my story:  2nd marriage after lots years of being single/divorced mom and my girls are teenagers – 1 moving out in 12 days!  My empty nest syndrome is starting because I just can’t imagine life without her under my roof safe and sound!  (And thanks to you guys for all of your words of encouragement and identifying with what I’m going through even if it’s only to remind you how your mom must’ve felt – talk about an age reminder!) 

Anyway, DH & I have been married for going on 3 years.  And I’m still young or feel young anyway and although DH & I both decided not to have any babies together (one reason is  because there would then have been 16 years, now 19 years between my oldest and youngest, another factor:  DH was an 11 lb. baby and YIKES! Just kidding!).   I read each blog about TTC and babies and I’m so envious of you guys!   My babies are grown (or nearly grown) and it all went by too fast (perhaps because I was so young).  And being mom is the best experience and I feel like NOW I’d enjoy it more, have more patience, be an even better mom.  You’re all in such wonderful places in your lives, at an admirable age without having made my same mistakes and doing things in a mixed up order & I’m just so happy for you guys!  And jealous!

A relative of DH’s just had a baby girl and although we aren’t close, I couldn’t help but shop for her by buying her a monogrammed onesie and lavender tutu!  Perfect  for upcoming spring photos!  And I’m second guessing my decision.  Now I want a baby and the entire experience all over again and this time with my MR. RIGHT.  He doesn’t have children and it doesn’t bother him.  He was fine either way with our decision.  It’s ME right now changing my mind.  I’m ridiculous, huh?  Crazy idea, isn’t it?  I mean…I became a mom at nearly 19.  I’ve been a mom for nearly half of my life.  I can see the light at the end of the tunnel – being an adult and not having the responsibility of having a child at home.  Right?  Tell me I’m nuts!  I’m a crazy lady!  Remind me that maybe in 5-10 years I can enjoy being a “nana” – NOT UNTIL AFTER AGE 40 THOUGH!  Promise me you’ll invite me over so I can get my mitts on your baby!  LOL 

HISGIRLMONDAY:  “May I please borrow your drug addicted baby in a box when you’re done to help satisfy my baby cravings?”  A good slap in the face with a stern “Snap out of it” might also work!  

I guess I just keep reading and living the experiences through my fellow nesties!  Blog more!  Or wait!  Am I stuck in a never ending baby crave-inducing blog world?  Will you all move to some baby nest when the time comes and I’ll be the old maid of The Nest?!  Maybe I’m in the wrong blog.  I know most will graduate to the baby nest and I'll be the junkie who hangs out way past my prime blogging years and years in the same place while everyone I meet moves on.  Okay.  Wake up call.  Depressing.

Time to pick up my daughter from candystriping.  I should stop by the store on the way home to get myself familiar with old people products.  :(

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re: Baby Admiration & Wake Up Call

You know, I think I can totally relate to how you're feeling.  I feel far more ready to have a baby at 30 than I would have at 25.  So I truly believe you would enjoy a baby at this stage in your life (and you're still really young!) perhaps more than when you were so young.  And to do it with someone you truly love and trust (not saying I know what your situation was the first time around, but it's clear you are very happy in your marriage now) would probably be such a wonderful experience.

That said, yes you will eventually have grandkids.  And everyone says that grandbabies are way better than babies because you have all the love but none of the fear, anxiety, nervousness, sleep exhaustion, and frustration that comes with your own children.

At least you have one more child still living at home :)  Try to keep her there as long as you can!

Posted by edmo    Wednesday, February 20, 2008 9:46 AM


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My husband calls me Mittens. I adore my husband, girls (19 & 16), our dapple doxie, Niski and spending time with family. I love the D&R board - you can usually find me there. It's a good thing I love D&R since we bought an old farmhouse last year that needs a complete cosmetic makeover. I love decorating & rearrange the furniture every time I clean. Yes, nearly once a week! I also love all things pink & girly. I'm an entrepreneur (wanna-be supermodel, actress, writer and princess - but my wanna-be status changes frequently). I love to blog. :)


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