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My New Direction (very looong!)

Posted Thursday, July 31, 2008 8:30 PM

"What if your current challenge is a call to action, a rallying cry that will prepare you for the next phase?"  I read this today...and it's fitting.  Last night, after going to bed, DH and I talked for a long time.  I love this man.  I love that he is supportive and encouraging!  I've whined in past blogs about my job ... and it's gotten to the point where I sometimes cry at night knowing I have to get up and go in the morning and in the mornings, I dread getting out of bed and going to work.  I work with wonderful people (except for the few jerks - see previous post).  But, the job is stressful.  I do medical administrative work for the administration of a growing medical group owned by a health system and the work piles on, the reward for good work is more work, the company grows, but the staff doesn't and being owned by the hospital - the hospital administration also piles on work due to their short staffed offices.  There is always hurrying to finish projects, open offices, etc.  I don't mind fast paced, but when deadlines are nearly impossible - it's not fun or rewarding. 

Anywho - last night we're talking and I asked DH (who has 7+ years of education) how long college credits last, etc. and we got to talking and he is 100% supportive of me returning to school to pursue marketing.  This means - I have permission to resign!  My plan is to start slow since it's already late and getting close to the beginning of a semester.  I plan to introduce myself back into studying with some online non-credit courses related to enhancing my business (my community website) first.  The thought that I'm 38 and won't finish until I'm 41 sort of did cross my mind, but I'll still have over 20 years to work in a career that I love!

We're at a place in our lives (not just starting a family, etc.) where I don't have to work.  I must say that the only thing I will miss from this job is my income.  My resignation means I will not have the luxury of "spending money".  It also means that the responsibility of health insurance falls to my self-employed DH, which is costly.  I do have enough saved to pay off my car, so that will be helpful.

Other areas benefiting from my resignation:  devoting more attention to my teenage daughter.  I feel like between my work schedule, her tennis, her volunteering at the hospital - she doesn't get much one on one from me and a lot of her summer has been spent at home alone or running with friends.  She'll graduate high school when I graduate from college.  :)

Another area: the community website I developed which can generate income at some point.  I just haven't had the time to actively market it to our community.  I've been running radio commercials and a few other  advertising options...but with work and family, it's always something I manage evenings and weekends.  I will, however, have to get creative on how to go about "free" publicity.  Still, I'm hopeful!  I invested a lot of time/money into it where it is low maintenance now and paid up for the next year or so.

I've made up my draft plan:  My boss is on vacation now.  When she returns, I go on vacation for 8 days.  When I return, I'll give my 2 week notice.  Classes start 9/17. If my schedule allows, I can maintain a longer part time status as a consultant to help train my replacement.  I really want to leave on good terms and I know my boss is going to be very upset.  When I started, I never met the person I replaced.  But the company was relatively small and the position grew with me (it's overgrown!).  I do fear that they won't be able to retain someone because of the work overload...but maybe I'm being too self-confident.  But, my performance review went so well, my boss became a friend, work developed into so much more than an administrative position (I created our company logo, create marketing materials, even manage one of our department's office staff now, etc.).

Sorry so long!  It's just so much to think about all at once.  I needed to write it out!   

Posted by DANGERUSS & MITTENS
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re: My New Direction (very looong!)

I think we are the same person!!  I am so non-confrontational and I had a similar dilemma when I was quitting my last job to move onto my current job.  First off, I commend you for following your dream and going back to school to achieve it!  That's great!  Second, I ended up giving my last job 2 weeks notice and then they asked me to stay for 4 weeks to help them wrap up my jobs (I was an auditor).  So I did and left on great terms.  I would hate to burn bridges if I don't have to.  Since I am like you in so many ways, I would tell your boss before you go on vacation to give adequate time for replacement and then work your two weeks/part time basis if needed after that time.  I think that will let your boss know that you are still dedicated to helping her fulfill your position in anyway that you can and it will help you to remain friends (if that is what you want).  There is always the possibility of them letting you go right away once you give notice, but it appears to me that that is highly unlikely due to your relationship with your boss and the demands of your job.

Good luck and please keep us posted on how everything turns out for you!  

Posted by Nancy&Mark    Thursday, July 31, 2008 8:15 PM


re: My New Direction (very looong!)

Thanks Nancy - you're quick!  I just edited my blog with my decision to wait until after my vacation to give my notice.  I'd like to be able to retain our health insurance for as long as I can before putting the responsibility on DH.  And there is always the possibility that I leave for vacation and I'm asked not to return, although I really don't think they're in a position to do that.  Still...it gives me my vacation to really firm up my decision.  When I return, I have 2 weeks and then I can remain on a part time basis until they're comfortable with my replacement.  I really do dread telling my boss though and that may be part of my decision to wait.  Putting it off just sounds like a better idea.  I'm great at procrastinating things like that and I have my vacation to play it out on how to tell her.  Poor thing is so overworked herself...I don't know how she stays sane.  :)  I doubt we'll remain friends, her life is her career and she often puts in 12 hour days and is a single mom of a teenage daughter...but I definitely will not burn bridges with them either.  

Posted by DANGERUSS & MITTENS    Thursday, July 31, 2008 8:33 PM


re: My New Direction (very looong!)

Sounds like a great decision!  You have to do what is best for you in the end and please don't ever forget that...have a great time on your vacation!  

I was quick, wasn't I?  :)

Posted by Nancy&Mark    Thursday, July 31, 2008 8:49 PM


re: My New Direction (very looong!)

I think this sounds like a great decision!!  I have always told myself that if I didn't like what I was doing, I would change careers no matter what age I am.  It takes guts but life is too short (how cliche, I know) to spend your days doing something that isn't fulfilling.  It is wonderful that your husband is behind you with your decision.  Congrats!!!

Posted by julia0402    Thursday, July 31, 2008 9:35 PM


re: My New Direction (very looong!)

Congrats, and good for you!!! Way to take charge and get out of a job your unhappy in!  

Posted by amccul20    Friday, August 01, 2008 8:12 AM


re: My New Direction (very looong!)

That is very exciting!  Congratulations!  Those aren't easy decisions to make.  I know that when Matt graduates with his degree, we are hoping he can get a really good job similar to mine and we could save for a couple years, then I can quit and stay with the kids and maybe teach college.  Dreams are so important, yet so many people don't follow through.  I am so happy for you that you are taking this step.  I know you are going to love the time with your daughter.  This is just great news all-around.

Posted by MandyE-worth    Friday, August 01, 2008 8:23 AM


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That all sounds great! It's so wonderful that you have a hubby that is supportive and encouraging. I am sure you will be very successful with the goals you have. :)

Posted by jade23    Friday, August 01, 2008 1:32 PM


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My husband calls me Mittens. I adore my husband, girls (19 & 16), our dapple doxie, Niski and spending time with family. I love the D&R board - you can usually find me there. It's a good thing I love D&R since we bought an old farmhouse last year that needs a complete cosmetic makeover. I love decorating & rearrange the furniture every time I clean. Yes, nearly once a week! I also love all things pink & girly. I'm an entrepreneur (wanna-be supermodel, actress, writer and princess - but my wanna-be status changes frequently). I love to blog. :)


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