Christmas makes people insane

Posted Friday, December 14, 2007 11:40 AM

I don't know what it is about Christmas that drives people to act like complete morons.  Maybe it's the overload of red and green.  I'm not sure those colors were ever supposed to go together.

My MIL is upset because of the arrangement of how we're spending Christmas day.  She did this last year too, so I'm actually quite used to these hysterics.  She wants us over at 2, but not eat until 5.  WHAT?  That's WAY too long to be just chilling at her place doing nothing.  And I'm going to be H U N G R Y!  That's a given without being pregnant.

We're spending part of Christmas day with my FIL (all my family celebrations are on different days, thank god, because it was last year when we "ruined" my MIL's Christmas by also having to spend time with my immediate family on that day.  My mother learned from said incident and we're celebrating on the 23rd this year...which is fine by me).  My MIL is quite upset that we're seeing my FIL at all.  Yeah, because Christmas is definitely the time to still be stingy with your adult children, bitter over a divorce that happened 20+ years ago, and jealous that your ex actually still has a relationship with his children.  Urgh. 

If only the stupidity would have stopped there.  Nope.  My FIL, usually a very well-intentioned man, has decided to spend a ridiculous amount of money on his new girlfriend and her two teenage children this year for Christmas, so he told his two children (which includes my husband) that Christmas will "be light" this year.  No big deal, it's his money and he can do whatever he wants with it, and my husband is an adult and doesn't really need gifts.  However, why in the world would you actually TELL your children that they are barely getting anything this year because you have decided that your girlfriend's family is more important.  Ridiculous.

Christmas bringing out the crazies, part 129,344,756.

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Wow. I can't belive that your FIL had the nerve to tell C this. Poor Chris! That would make anyone upset, and hurt more than anything that he would say something of that nature. The MIL needs to just get over it and be happy that she's seeing you guys at all. I'm so glad we dont have to deal w/ all this crap this year.... of course the SIL still finds a way to piss me off!

Posted by amandag56    Friday, December 14, 2007 10:56 AM


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"My MIL is quite upset that we're seeing my FIL at all.  Yeah, because Christmas is definitely the time to still be stingy with your adult children, bitter over a divorce that happened 20+ years ago, and jealous that your ex actually still has a relationship with his children.  Urgh. "  

Ohh I know how you feel! Deep breaths {that goes for me too}!  I told DH that we were going to do the soup kitchen thing, or volunteer at the Salvation Army to reel in the "real" meaning of Christmas and the holidays- <u>giving,</u> not taking and being selfish.  

Posted by Cristina<3 Whit    Friday, December 14, 2007 11:31 AM


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You are right.  People do get crazy - it is just that is not not enough time to see all the friends and family - This year we have everything spead out too - over a few days - which is always better.  I hope you Christmas is okay but by the sounds of it - it may not be.  Just think - this time next year - you will have your own little family.  That should make you smile and you can tell all of your family members on both sides that they have to come to you because you have a little baby and it is cold outside and then you will not have to deal trying to juggle everyone.

Posted by JackieMac824    Friday, December 14, 2007 12:42 PM


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Ugh.  I personally can't wait for the whole holiday season to be over!  Thankfully, we celebrate on the 24th with DH's family, and on the 25th with mine -- definitely makes it so much easier to just do it on different days.

PS:  I've been meaning to congratulate you on being PG!!!  Congrats and best wishes!

Posted by Knot Heather    Friday, December 14, 2007 2:00 PM


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HaHa . . . my MIL just has to deal when I "ruin" her holidays, and when I don't allow her ruin mine . . . Amen to Jackie - you will have a little baby and you "won't" be able to travel.  And, I can't believe your FIL - that is just rude and plain wrong!

Posted by Mrs. Rachel A.    Friday, December 14, 2007 2:34 PM


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That's what Chris and I keep saying..."Can't wait until next year"...

It's almost reason enough to have a baby! Ha!

Posted by edmo    Friday, December 14, 2007 3:03 PM


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Hey, you're featured!  Woohoo~!

Holidays are pretty easy for us since his family still lives in Korea.  The things people do during the holidays, though...whatever happened to the spirit of the season, the reason we even celebrate?

{{hugs}} You'll get through it, once again.  ^.~

Posted by Choensa    Friday, December 14, 2007 10:29 PM


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Wait til that little one arrives and then everyone expects even more time during the holidays. I'm so very lucky, our families celebrate on different days (my family the day after, his family the day before) so that their kids who have kids can do their own celebration on Christmas.

Posted by cassiehunt    Saturday, December 15, 2007 3:08 PM


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I feel your pain! I know aaaaall about family drama. LOL Hopefully, everything will be relatively smooth sailing for you guys. Ya know, I'm not too mad at your FIL though. I think it's totally appropriate to spend more money on actual kids and to explain to your adult kids that that's where the money's goin. Now if his girlfriend's kids and your DH were all the same age, that'd be different.

Posted by FabChoice    Sunday, December 16, 2007 9:47 AM


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I'm already trying to avoid the holiday drama next year.  My family is all out of town, but I can just hear them begging DH, bambino and I to come visit them for Christmas b/c we see ILs almost everyday, but that's not fair to the ILs who will also be celebrating their grandchild's first holiday season.  Hopefully I can convince everyone to come to Dallas next year, and hopefully your FIL will spend more money on his grandchild than his girlfriend's children, not even his STEPchildren.  Hope the holidays themselves are better.  Tip to avoid hunger and boredom: Offer to help prepare dinner and spend the time "taste testing" everything.  GL

Posted by Princess_Ariel    Monday, December 17, 2007 2:10 PM


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