The Nest

Poor Brother

Posted Thursday, February 14, 2008 1:57 PM

Well, this was my brother and his girlfriend, A.  She just broke up with him.  I feel so bad for him, mainly because he's at this point where he thought he would get married within a year or two and here he is at 28 suddenly realizing he has to go through the whole process all over again...meet girl, date for a long time, maybe she's the one, find out if she is the one or start all over again, propose, plan wedding, get married.  He has wanted to be married since he was like ten, I'm not sure why.  I think he felt deprived of a family unit since he was barely 3 when my parents divorced, and he's always wanted to create a family for as long as I can remember.  But now he's looking at quite awhile before he can have what he's always been hoping for.

I personally don't believe that A. was right for my brother.  He's a very passionate person and always wants to learn something knew, and I don't think she encouraged his passions and dreams.  Regardless, he's crushed.  I hope he takes this opportunity to do something he's always wanted to do.  He has nothing holding him back, not work, not a home, not children or a girlfriend.  My only sad realization is that if he up and moves to California or something, he won't be here when the baby is born.  Not only is he my brother (only 14 months younger than me) but he and my husband have been best friends for 12 years now.  I so want him as an active part of our child's life.