The Nest

re: 25 days

There is this guy that I work with.  When his wife got pregnant we were all really happy for them.  Then they found out the sex of the baby.  He told everyone at the office that he knew but wouldn't tell.  Everyone was okay with it.  We would ask stuff like, so have you picked out the name, and he was a bit childish about it, something along the lines of, "Yes, but we aren't gonna tell any of you."  And that was fine.  We gave him a generic baby shower at work and pooled in to buy him a carseat.  Then, they had the baby and he didn't come to work for a few weeks.  People called him and emailed to find out how his wife and baby were.  He didn't respond to anyone.  So when he came back, it was still a week before he told people that he had a boy.  I still don't know the name, wish I could get my carseat money back.  

I figured when I have a baby I wouldn't find out, but after that guy, I am sure I am going to find out and tell everyone the day I do.  I think it is nice to know.  It will only help you plan.  That way you know, Pink or Blue!  

Posted by MandyE-worth    Friday, February 29, 2008 10:40 AM

re: 25 days

You better hope the babies legs are not closed.  I understand where people are coming from that do not want to find out - it is lifes last surprise - plus if you have a girl - everyone will buy you clothes at your shower and not the things you need - plus if you decide to have another child and it is the opposite sex then you have to go out and buy all new clothes.  I told DH if we have one child we will not find out because he does not to know and I firgured there is alot of cute gender nutural things out nowadays but if we are told we are having twins I want to find out because I am a planner and that is just to much - I would have to know with two babies coming.   Plus they may tell you it is a girl and it ends up being a boy - nothing is 100% - of heard of it happening many times.  So what are you hoping for?  Do you have names picked out yet?

Posted by JackieMac824    Friday, February 29, 2008 11:01 AM

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I don't think I want to find out, but my cousin had to know.  I wouldn't lecture you or try to get your to change your mind, but I think it will be fun to try and find cute stuff for either or both.  Who knows, I may be completely freaked out when it happens and decide I have to know . . .

Posted by Mrs. Rachel A.    Friday, February 29, 2008 11:18 AM

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When one of my best friend's sisters was pregnant, they found out the sex of the baby and only told family. The family was absolutely sworn to secrecy. If you asked what names they had picked out they would tell you both the male and female name they had picked before they found out. It actually worked out really well because for their shower they did get stuff they really needed, but the family didn't think they were being excluded on the sex of the baby. I'm with you though, I would absolutely need to know!

Posted by ermimac    Friday, February 29, 2008 3:08 PM

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I'm the kind of person who will HAVE to know.  I want to call my baby by his/her name, to know what route to go with decorating a room...

My mother found out with all of us except my youngest brother.  By the time baby number 6/7 comes around, it's probably a little nice to change it up a little, lol.  I never really heard people make a fuss either way about not finding out, though.  And the old "trick" came true--whatever the first gender-specific thing you open turns out to indicate the sex of the baby,  ^^;;

Where my husband is from, though, doctors are absolutely forbidden from telling what the sex of the baby is beforehand.  I would say, "But how to people live?!" but honestly, it's almost a necessity in Asian countries still. :\

Anyway, it's nice to see you excited for this!  :D

Posted by Choensa    Friday, February 29, 2008 7:03 PM

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Im the type that HAS to know, because I am a planner and always have been. I was counting down the days until my "Big Ultrasound." The thing about people getting stuff you dont need. You can just register the things you need and not clothes. Thats what I did. The only clothing I did were plain white onesies, and sleepers. But im sure people will buy clothes anyays because its easier

Im not having any more kids after this so I dont care about buying gender neutral items.

Posted by CherryHeart    Monday, March 03, 2008 5:07 PM