The Nest

The guest list grows

Posted Thursday, September 06, 2007 2:51 PM

Luckily the 2nd day of official wedding planning wasn't quite as stressful as the first, although I still didn't sleep well, which may be in part due to our window unit air conditioner being on the fritz and making terrible noises while we tried to sleep, and of course, it was too hot to sleep without it.

 We had dinner with his parents last night (mmm...ravioli) and it went much better than the phone call.  We were able to make a list, it was mostly his dad listing off people I've never seen/heard of before.  His mom's relatives live out of the country and will not be able to attend.  Our guest list only grew by 30 by the time we were done, to 124.  I am curious to see my mom's list.

Having conversations about weddings apparently encourages parents to talk about their weddings.  My mom told us that for their wedding each family and the bride/groom were each allowed to invite 50 guests.  His parents told us they had maybe 70 people present, but they were married in his mother's native county so it was only her friends and family who attended.

I'm still not sure on a lot of things, budget being the biggest.  My parents have 3 girls and they  paid for us all to attend private colleges for 4 years (actually yougest sister still in college), so I don't think they'll be paying, or at least, they won't be paying a huge sum of money.  I am not looking forward to the budget discussions, which I know have to come relatively soon.

Another thing I am not sure on is my bridesmaids.  I've thought for a long time it would be the three sisters (his one and my two) and my three childhood best friends, however, he's not a big fan of two of my childhood best friends and in fact, I haven't seen them more than two or three times in the last year, they don't make an effort to see me, but on the other hand it feels weird to just have the one childhood best friend, what will the other two say, but is it a battle worth fighting?  I just don't know.

 And co-workers.  I'm not close to any of my co-workers, but at the same time, we are considering holding the wedding at a piece of property owned by my non-profit and then I would feel that I should at least extend the invitation to them, or maybe some of them.

Ugh!  Decisions, decisions! I think I am setting myself a rule that I can't think about wedding stuff past 8 or 9 at night so that I can calm my mind and not freak myself out constantly with "what's the budget?" "what if it rains?" I don't know if it will work though...