The final portion of the guest list arrives
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Sunday, September 09, 2007 3:53 AM
I received from my mother her portion of the guest list today. With everyone we want to invite (we haven't added all our friends yet, I just picked a few, I'm trying to pin him down to talk about it, hasn't happened yet.) The list is at 156, but I'm sure a ton of people from the East and West coasts will not be coming in for it, they aren't people I see regularly and some of them have never met my fiancé, possibly never even heard of him, as we aren't close. There were family members like that on his side too, although you never know, they may come to see everyone else they are related to.
We still haven't decided on a location, first I wanted the rough number which I now officially have. We went to a state park for a cook-out last night and I felt a very strong "we should have the wedding here" vibe. We have created so many memories over the last 3 or 4 years at that park, and I think it could work. I had a vision along with the vibe. There's a hill (overlooking a lake) and we could have the ceremony up there, then at the base of the hill there is a large field, a great play ground and even a beach where we could hold the reception. If we started at 11am, the bugs wouldn't be too bad, we could offer lunch (something really cheap, sadly, sloppy joes maybe) and just let people spend the day playing as desired in the park, however the state park does come with a $5 per vehicle sticker charge. Maybe we could do a formal dinner with grandparents and parents at 6 or 7. We could rent out the group camp site and everyone who wants to could camp with us.
But all this costs money and I'm still not sure where the money is coming from. I guess we'll have to ask our families pretty soon, I sure hope they agree, otherwise I'm not sure what we'll do. I seem to be more cheap end oriented than my fiancé, I told him we probably couldn't afford an actual wedding cake and he almost cried. (I don't see this as a big deal, we know a ton of people who love baking/cake decorating.) We were also talking about pictures and he seemed a little downtrodden when I told him we most likely won't have a professional photographer either. It's not that I don't want/like these things, it's that we have very little money for this event and we need to be prepared to make financially savvy decisions. I'm nervous that his parents will feel my parents should pay and get us these types of things, I know my parents won't, I'm nervous my parents won't let us have the small sum I plan on asking for. But all that is for the future. The not too distant future.
I also keep thinking about the two childhood friends my fiancé nixed as bridesmaids, I think I'll try discussing it with him again. I know they aren't so much my friends now, but they were a huge part of my life and made me who I am as much as my family, so I'm hoping he'll reconsider once I've expressed how important it is to me, but then I wonder will this be the first of many things that are "important" to me? Am I going to have a fit over everything? I sure hope not.