My man and I met at a summer camp and have been inseperable ever since. He proposed in August of 06 and we are to be married in August of 08. I'm attempting to do this on a low budget in the most laid back way possible, but only time will tell how it really ends up.

We don't have a barrel of money

Posted Monday, September 10, 2007 3:37 PM

I'm getting a little worried I am the only one who realizes we can't have everything for our wedding.  My maid-of-honor yesterday referenced wedding companies (cake, photos, DJs) I hate to tell her, and my fiancé, but we simply cannot afford to go that route.  We have to pick non-traditional methods of wedding planning for the sake of budget.  I understand their desire to see traditional things happening and they can, just cheaper.  We'll find a friend who bakes (we have them aplenty) we'll find a friend who takes photos (I'd love to take them, but I'm sure I wouldn't be in any then and that won't quite work), we'll set up our iPods with speakers.  It doesn't matter if you use real wedding companies or if you wing it, what matters is the marriage and seeing your family and friends come to wish you the best in your new life and to do that, they don't need oodles of money.

I was attempting to suggest to my fiancé that he give me some ideas for the wedding, I asked him what he would wanted at our wedding, his answer "To walk down the aisle with you"  yeah, that's sweet and all, but what kind of aisle, where will the aisle be, who will be sitting on either side of the aisle, what will be wearing as we walk down the aisle, where will we go after we walk down the aisle?  Hopefully I can begin to gently plant the seeds that we need more than a wing and prayer to get this up and running.

On the humorous side, a friend suggested we have a pirate come in and take over the wedding in a humerous twist, as we are having a pirate/princess wedding.  It sounds hysterical, but also like a logistical nightmare.

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re: We don't have a barrel of money

I was the maid of honor in a costume optional, fairy tale themed wedding in October 2002.   The bride and groom didn't have a lot of money and had to do things the way that you're talking... they rented a Lions Hall, found an affordable caterer, hired a friend to make a castle shaped wedding cake, asked a friend to DJ (he had the equipment, I provided the CDs from music I'd downloaded).   I have to say that it was really stressful because I'd never been involved in a wedding like that.   There were a few glitches along the way -- aren't there always?   But it all turned out well, and the wedding was a lot of fun.   Some people showed up in costume, which added to the fun.    And the bottom line is that they're still happily married, so that's what really matters!  

I, on the other hand, got married in a beautiful church where a string quartet played during the ceremony, then we rented a limo bus to drive us to the reception, we hired someone to do everything and spent a small fortune to do it.   The wedding day turned out perfectly - unfortunately the wedding lasted only a year.   Now I look back and think about what a huge waste it was!    

That was 10 years ago... now I'm engaged to a wonderful man and we're keeping it simple.    We're running off to Aruba to get married and throwing a party when we get back.    

The bottom line is not to stress the details, keep the focus on what's happening - the commitment that you're about to make to the person you love.   Everything else will fall into place.  

Good luck!

Posted by aferanec    Monday, September 10, 2007 10:17 AM


re: We don't have a barrel of money

<quote>The bottom line is not to stress the details, keep the focus on what's happening - the commitment that you're about to make to the person you love.   Everything else will fall into place.   </quote>

Thanks :-) You've got a great point, it's not about how you do it, it's about celebrating your new life.  

Have a great time in Aruba!

Posted by E's    Monday, September 10, 2007 11:04 AM


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