The Nest

Taking deep breaths

Posted Wednesday, January 30, 2008 9:23 PM

I'm really not sure if it's me or everyone else or just a complete breakdown of communcation, but it seems like wedding planning makes me crazy.  Not good.  So, I've stepped down a little, taking some times to take some deep breaths *and exhale*.

I'm on track, I've booked the ceremony location, reception location, officiant and caterer.  I bought my dress, just waiting for it to arrive.  We bought our wedding rings this weekend.  That was probably my favorite thing so far.  We spent more than we should have but we are so excited, it made the whole thing real in some way.  Of course, even the ring buying wasn't flawless. After we got home they called to say that my finace's ring wasn't the price they gave us, but it's actually platinum lined and twice as expensive (and his was the more expensive ring to begin with).  We can't afford that, so we have to go back and pick out another ring for him, but the jewler closes at 6 and it's not fesible for us to be there by then, so we'll have to wait until this next weekend for him to pick out another ring.

The biggest thing we're behind on is budget since he hadn't asked his parents until last week (I asked mine in October) and now we have a brunch this weekend to talk about it or something.  And, with asking his parents how much they are able to contribute comes another bridezilla moment for me.  (I'm hoping to keep the crazy on the inside but I would like a moment to vent here.)  His dad told us to find a resturant in the small town near the state park we are holding our wedding for the rehearsal dinner, great, nice and traditional, I myself would prefer to have a home cooked rehersal dinner or have one at the park or something cheep.  So, now my fiance says to his parents, "we can include the rehersal dinner in the money you are able to give us."  See the bridezilla moment?  If the rehersal dinner is coming out of the general budget, I'd much rather use the expense elsewhere (I'm talking goody bag items, not fancy ass shoes or something) and have a cheap rehersal dinner.  But, I guess in this arena his family feels tradition is important and I can appreciate that.  So, expensive rehersal dinner, no flowers (we aren't quite to no flowers yet, but since we spent so much on the rings we have about $700 left in the budget (not including his parents contribution) and we need things like "tables for the guests to sit at during the reception" and possibly "a tent". I some how doubt $700 will get me either one of those things, let alone both... and we still have no idea how the honeymoon is being paid for, we have our eyes on a week in Jamacia, but since we aren't sure how we're paying we haven't actually booked it yet.  I think the budget is going to need some *ahem* adjusting.

 So, I'm trying to take it very slowly, respect everyone else and not freakout... I'm trying... *deep breath*