The Nest

Splitting the co-workers

Posted Tuesday, June 10, 2008 3:34 PM

So last night I had to do it. I couldn't put it off any longer.  It was time to figure out which of my co-workers I'm going to invite and which I'm not.  I can imagine for most people, it isn't very hard, you just don't put them on the list to start with.  However, I work in a very social office of about 25 women (yep, only women) and I myself am not in any particular social group, so there are no obvious choices of who to pick and who not.

I sat with a list in front me of all my co-workers and started at the top.  I would write each name in another list on a notepad.  Each person I would consider the pros and cons of inviting, placing them on one of three lists.  People I will not be inviting, people I'd like to invite and people I will invite.  I felt like I was in High School again. 

There was a time I would have invited everyone, but then they went and hired one of my least favorite people on the planet who I WILL NOT invite.  So now it feels meaner to invite everyone but her, so I have to not invite some other people.  But if I don't invite them, will they hate me forever?  Do they already hate me?  Is that why I'm not inviting them? Ugh!

Plus I had to run numbers of people already invited/people already RSVPd/people who probably won't come and see how many co-workers I could invite. Luckily, perhaps, it seems I included most of my co-workers in the inital totals, so there's no limit because of space.

My lists all done, I had about 19 people I wanted to invite and 5 I didn't, that's good enough I guess.  I think I'll put them in staff mail boxes later this afternoon, once most people have gone home... so tomorrow the drama will begin...