Bridesmaid Bummer
Posted
Sunday, January 13, 2008 7:49 PM
I sent an email to my best friend from college last week. It was a photo of me in my wedding gown. She wrote back that she might not be able to make the trip from Texas to Minnesota to attend my wedding. I'm completely bummed. I was going to ask her to be one of my bridesmaids. I figured the long distance would be a pain for her to be Matron of Honor but I really did want her to be in the wedding with me and now she might not be there at all! I haven't officially asked anyone to be in my wedding yet (I wanted to have a firm date set) but this was still a crushing blow. Now I feel like I can't ask her to be in the wedding because that would be imposing upon her. I understand the situation she's in, but this is the one time in my life I was hoping my friends and family would all be there to celebrate this day with me. The thing that has been so difficult for me is the idea that most people will not be able to travel to my wedding.
I moved to Minnesota 11 years ago from Florida. My parents and a few friends still live in Florida. Other than that the rest of my extended family...Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, Grandfather all live in New England. My fiancee is from Minnesota and the majority of his family is here. We thoroughly discussed the location and decided that we would have the wedding here. I've been trying to brace myself for the fact that a lot of my family will not be there, but I guess I always assumed my best friend would be there.
Has anyone else had this kind of situation? I don't know if I should even ask her now, although I don't want her to think I wouldn't ask her to be in the wedding either!