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Birthday bust

Posted Monday, July 16, 2007 8:12 AM

Yesterday was my birthday and it was different than any other birthday I've had. Usually, I spend it with my close friends, either going shopping, getting a pedicure, eating out, or something like that. This birthday I spent with DH, his highschool friends, and my in-laws. It was fun, don't get me wrong. We went camping with his family and then we went tubing on the lake and in DH's friend's hottub. For dinner, we went to a great Mexican restaurant with my in-laws.

The weirdest part about my birthday, though, was that only one of my good friends called to wish me a happy birthday. A girl, who I was really good friends with in highschool but haven't talked to for the last 4 years, even called to say happy birthday but my two best friends? Not a word. I even talked to one of them on the phone last night and mentioned that my friend Mary (my only good friend who called) and I were having a joint birthday party next weekend. All she said was, "You guys are getting so old..." I was like "Does she know it's my birthday today?" Last year, she brought me balloons and coffee in bed and took me out for breakfast for my birthday. This year, nada. I don't need presents or cards, just a little call acknowledging that it's my birthday.

Am I being petty and selfish about this? I know that it's easy to lose tracks of dates and birthdays, it's just that these are people who are usually all over birthdays and then I hear nothing from them on mine. It's just really strange...

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re: Birthday bust

You're not being petty.  I think birthdays are a very big deal, even though some people think celebrating being another year older is silly.  I personally enjoy celebrating birthdays not because it's one more year, but to congratulate yourself for getting through the past year.  Each year a person lives in a miracle, considering everything bad out there in the world.  I find it key to remind yourself that you're alive, you're happy, you have a lot to live for.

That said, I remind everyone when it's my birthday.  I start a few days beforehand, just so people remember.  I don't do that for the elicited birthday card or gift, I do it because I'm terrible at remembering birthdates and wish more people would do this so I can be reminded when they are coming up.  People have a lot of friends and family and dates to remember, so a little reminder is always a good thing for me.  

I did forget my best friend's birthday once.  It is on Dec 23rd, and this one particular year I had a lot going on for Christmas, and I totally forgot.  I even talked to her that day too.  It's so embarrassing.  I hope your friend remembers and makes it up to you.  I think you should call her, or email, and just jokingly say, "We talked on the phone and you didn't even remember it was my birthday!"  If you act mad, it will just make her defensive, but if you turn it into a joke, she'll see how cool you are and feel even worse about forgetting.

Posted by edmo    Monday, July 16, 2007 10:49 AM


re: Birthday bust

I don't think you are being petty either. However, I have found that once you are married, people tend to think that you no longer need those little things from others like calls from your freinds on your birthday. As someone who has had many a birthdays forgotten ( Dec 24) it really sucks!

I know how you feel, it's annoying but if your hubbie and your family members remembered and did something special for your I would consider yourself blessed!

Posted by Kitten Mommy    Monday, July 16, 2007 5:17 PM


re: Birthday bust

Thanks for your comments girls. I talked to my best friend Holly yesterday and she said that she knew my birthday was the 15th--she just didn't realize that it was already the 15th (she has a very unstructured job). She felt really bad about missing it and about me having a hard birthday. But you're right--I did get to celebrate and my DH and my new family did make it special for me. I also am just going to call my friend Brittany and ask if she forgot it was my birthday, because it hurt my feelings that she didn't say anything. At the end of it all, though, I'm still another year older--and hopefully wiser!

Posted by Happy2BeKathyKluthe    Tuesday, July 17, 2007 8:17 AM


re: Birthday bust

Don't feel so bad, at least you went out and had fun with the poeple who care most. And the comment about people forgetting to honor your Bday after your get married is soo true! That happened to me this year. We got married last Sept. and I moved from my usual group of people. So this year for my bday I only got calls from my family and maybe like one friend. My best friend totally forgot about me and no card or anything. I had dinner with my DH and that was it. Nothing big. Oh and the friend that I didn't hear from? Well, we just drifted apart from that point. Only because after she got married she moved to Seattle and the connection was hard to keep up. So it didn't really bother me that she didn't remember my bday. I at least sent her a bday card a month later for her bday just to see her reaction lol. Needles to say it worked cause she called and thanked me for it and also said Happy Belated Bday. LOL. But at times I would love to get back with my old friends and have the time of my life! But poeple change, and move on with their lives and its hard to keep up with them all.

Posted by oki23    Friday, July 20, 2007 3:44 PM


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About Happy2BeKathyKluthe

In May of 2004, I found out what it means to have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and it changed my entire life. I owe everything--including my husband--to Him and His work on the cross.


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