Working From Home & Irritated
Posted
Wednesday, March 12, 2008 7:17 PM
I've had this awful pain in my chest for about three days now--I'll describe it as a rattling-- so Ken encouraged me to work from home today. This is something I do NOT usually do (let's be honest, too many distractions!) but I think it's good to have the day of rest away from coworkers once in awhile.
I've been peeved about something for the past few days. A couple weeks ago my good friend of 9 years came to New York to stay with Ken and I for 4 days. It wasn't that we invited her. She told us she was coming to the city and of course I couldn't say no to her staying with us. Actually, I don't think she ever asked... but of course I am a welcoming person.
I'm not going to lie, it was hard work to accomodate her. Ken and I live in a one bedroom apartment in Greenwich Village, on the sixth floor of a walk-up building. We have a really nice apartment, but like many things in the Village it is small and cozy. Perfect for two. I thought that we had a great time while she was here. We took her to Times Square & Rockefellar Center, I took her for a walk to all the amazing shops in SoHo, we went to see Spamalot on Broadway, and Ken and I even mapped out her day on her own (as we both have pretty demanding careers, and we can't just take a day off, especially with our upcoming wedding/honeymoon). Anyways, I thought it was a great time.
Throughout the whole trip she kept telling me that on her last night she was going to take Ken and I out to dinner for our hospitality, but she was unwilling to pick the place. Ken ended up finding us this fantastic little Cuban place that wasn't too far from Magnolia Bakery (which is a place I wanted to take Allison for dessert-- one of my favorite haunts, and featured often on Sex in the City). The dinner was great... we enjoyed sangria, and live Cuban music... it's pretty much the reason I love New York (great food and wonderful atmosphere!) When the bill came though, we let it sit there for awhile (after all, she did offer to pay!) but when asked if our check was all set, we said no and Ken picked it up and our friend asked "oh, how much is mine?"
Now, Ken and I usually avoid awkward moments. I didn't say anything. Should I have? She had been telling me for four days that she was going to take us out to dinner. Knowing this information, Ken and I made sure to pick a moderately priced place.
It's not that I mind that she didn't pay for the dinner. I just wish she would have said something about it to me. Like "Oh hey I spent too much shopping and it's really not going to work for me to pay for you guys... I'm sorry" or something. I had never asked her to take us to dinner in the first place, so when she offered and then failed to do so it left me feeling like Ken and I did something wrong and she was disappointed in her stay with us, though I cannot imagine why.
I didn't care about the money. It's not an issue... it was just that she kept telling me and then all of a suddent took it back without saying why. The rest of the night went on fine and then the next moring I hailed her a cab to take to Penn Station.
Here we are, almost a week and a half later, and I haven't heard anything from her. This is weird, because this is someone that prior to the trip I spoke with practically everyday. I expected at least an email- thanks for having me! Or something. It was beginning to bother me so finally a couple days ago I asked her if everything was okay. I told her I felt like she was disappointed in her trip and was wondering if that is why I hadn't heard from her. Her only response was that no, it was nice to see the city, and she just had a lot on her mind.
This got me to thinking. I know that I did everything for her that I could while she was here. She knew that I would have to go to work and that I tried very hard to make sure she could do as many things as she had planned on doing while she was here. It couldn't be that.
Then it began to dawn on me. Not that I EVER mentioned it to her, but do you think it might be possible that this friend of mine thought that if she came all the way out here to see me, that I might ask her to be my bridesmaid? It's never been brought up but I wonder if it's one of those things that is just expected. Ken totally thinks that's the situation, and also why I haven't heard from her since she's left.
I don't know if I should mention it to her or not. I'm not going to ask her to be a bridesmaid. I asked Ken's sister Marie to be my Maid of Honor, partially because I was her friend before I met Ken, and partially because we are going to be SISTERS soon. I want to have a strong relationship with her. Then I also asked my cousin Kaity. I want to have a small wedding party. One that doesn't need drama-management.
I think I should just let it go... and if she is going to be dramatic/bitter then it's her own deal. I'm too busy for this childish nonsense.
Does anyone have any advice for me?
Holly