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To Garter or not to Garter?

Posted Wednesday, April 09, 2008 10:19 PM

I was wondering how many brides are including throwing the garter in their ceremony? I just feel a little uncomfortable about the whole thing. I swear the thought of pulling up my dress and letting my open leg be visible while my fiance take off my garter in front of everyone just makes me feel uncomfortable. I know it's tradition but I just feel like my poor Grandmother would be staring in horror as the garter is slowly pulled from my thigh. It's like a visual presentation of what is going to take place after your wedding. I know I may be making too big a deal out of this but I just can't get over it. I have been informed there are fun ways of doing this like putting the garter around a football and having your groom toss it to all the single men, which seems fun for everyone else but it is still my leg! My groom isn't thrilled about this tradition either only because he knows it makes me uncomfortable. I am not a shy person I just don't know about this and why it makes me feel so weird. Would it be odd to toss the bouquet and not have the garter? I am not bagging this if you are really into this part of the reception but the last time I watched the whole garter bit it was just weird. Everyone was watching the groom grab-a-feel of his new bride. Is that really something you want children seeing? I just am on the rocks about this whole garter bit so for now I am keeping it on my leg. 

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re: To Garter or not to Garter?

Removing the garter is an ages old tradition.  In fact, when garters used to be just decorated ribbons that were tied just above or below the knee, it was very common for the Mother of the Bride to loosen the garters because instead of being removed by the groom, they were removed by another eligible bachelor and grooms were known (especially drunk on wedding punch as they usually were) to take offense at a guy's hand up their wife's skirts for too long.

That said, if you are uncomfortable with it, don't do it.  No, it is not "weird" to throw the bouquet but not do the garter toss.

All you "owe" your guests is adequate food for the time of day your reception is happening, appropriate drink, and an enthusiastic welcome from you and the groom for attending the wedding.  Nobody will be cheated by you not doing the garter toss.

For what it's worth, I despise this particular "tradition" too--almost as much as I dislike cake smashing.  I really hate it when the grooms come out with a sign that says "For Rent" or with a pair of underwear or something.

Bottom line is, if you don't feel comfortable with it and he doesn't like it either--skip it.  Most likely, nobody will even notice it.

Posted by Fly_Girl    Thursday, April 10, 2008 1:18 AM


re: To Garter or not to Garter?

Defintely don't feel like you have to carry out this tradition.  I'm not planning on doing the garter or the bouquet toss at my wedding. Of course there will be MAYBE 2 single women, and the single men are in their teens.  So I definitely didn't feel it was appropriate.  I went to a wedding recently and chose to totally ignore this part of the wedding.  Though it's all in good fun, etc, I'm not particularly fond of this one myself.  My new hubby can remove it in the privacy of our honeymoon suite where I don't feel that everyone's staring.

Posted by edenchai    Thursday, April 10, 2008 10:21 AM


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