Last week in review

Posted Monday, July 14, 2008 4:12 PM

Well really only from Thursday on..

Thursday evening Jamie and I had a interesting conversation.  It's going to require a little back story so bear with me. 

As long as Jamie and I have been living together (about 4 years now) when his parents come to visit us they stay with us.  They don't demand our bed or anything they are happy to stay on the pullout, on a mattess or air mattress on the floor whatever they aren't picky, but I have always been a little wierded out by it.  My parents on the other hand always stay in a hotel.  My mom likes her space and my Dad wouldn't be comfortable staying in our spare room.  Also keep in mind that our 1 bedroom 1 bathroom apartment is approx 900 sq feet and we have NO spare room.  This is the first apt that A is this small and B doesn't have a spare room.  Are you with me so far?

Thursday night Jamie and I get home from work change our clothes and sit down to watch a little tv before getting dinner started. Jamie's father has never seen our apartment (we have been there almost 2 years) not because they don't have a good relationship just because it's never worked out for him to come down.  So he makes the comment that he wishes his dad could see our apt.  So, being the nice wifey that I am I said since we can't go home for Christmas (SIL is getting married in Oct) why don't they come down here.  Jamie goes Ok.  This is where things get interesting.  I say but I think that it would be better and more comfortable if they stayed in a hotel.  Now keep in mind that I have brought this up before and did not think that it would be an issue.  This where Jamie says, and I quote "if I have to ask them to stay in a hotel then I am not going to extend the invitation because mom would be highly offended if we did".  WTF?!?  His explaination you ask?  (again his own words)  His parents raised him to hospitable if he lived in a mansion or a card board box.  My response...so we have to pur ourselves out to accomodate them??  We had agreed not to argue so the conversation turned to other things but this really blew my mind. 

Please give opinions on the above topic...I'm wondering what others think.

In other news also relating to Thursday, Jamie's company gave him a $500.00 bonus.  Anyone who has read my blog knows that his job can be a source of frustration for him and being rewarded like that was really a boost he needed.  Not to mention it didn't hurt that budget either :).

Saturday we went to visit a friend of ours up north and borrowed his diagnostics.  Looks like the repair to Jamie's car is going to be a minor one.  Spark plugs and wires will hopefully fix it.  Fingers crossed!!

Sunday was just spent laying low and getting ready for monday!

How was everyone elses weekend?

Posted by Mr and Mrs King

Comments

re: Last week in review

First off his parents should be kind enough to get a hotel room on their own. I'd feel weird having them staying over! and I don't think it'd be bad for him to suggest they get a room, for their own comfort....if you suggested it might seem harsh..but their own son suggesting is just a family thing..ya know?

Posted by AlwaysMrs.S    Monday, July 14, 2008 3:46 PM


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AlwaysMrsS.  I wish that were true.  His parents wouldn't even think of it..it's a wierd situation.  I'm going to end up giving in and letting them stay with us.  Maybe I will get a hotel room.  

Posted by Mr and Mrs King    Monday, July 14, 2008 4:03 PM


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I don't know..... this is a tough issue and it usually depends on the individual families. My family tend to stay together even in tiny apartments ect.... most of the time just because we all end up staying up late talking and having fun anywayz but It is not an Expectation or anything. However I have a friend whose parents ALWAYS get a hotel even when an extra bed is available..... The only thing that gets me is that it would be an offense or a question of hospitality.  If there is no space for it then why would it be expected?  Thats a tough one.

Posted by Ashleigh Elbert    Monday, July 14, 2008 5:45 PM


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Andy feels the same way your husband does! We're in the middle of moving, and his parents are coming next weekend (and the weekend after, but that's another issue...). But rather than "offend" his parents by asking them to stay in a hotel, we have to have them stay with us - even though things will be torn up and crazy!! I'm with you though - if there isn't a guest room/enough room, asking them to stay in a hotel is no big deal. I'd try to sell it as "more comfortable for them" since they won't have to share the bathroom, etc.

Posted by AirGuitarRockin    Tuesday, July 15, 2008 7:29 AM


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