Posted Monday, September 01, 2008 2:13 PM
So, Labor Day today, just happened to fall on my 25th B-day!!! I've finally arrived at this milestone and I couldn't feel more blessed. I've never been one to make a huge deal out of my birthday, but I said this year, I'm going all out because on this day, I can't help but remember a dear friend of mine, that didn't get to see his 25th Birthday.
My plans for the day--involve lounging and relaxing by day, and hopefully, enjoying a great dinner with DH tonight. He had to work, so I should be meeting up with him soon this evening. But, what I'm really looking forward to is this weekend--where I'm having a big bash to celebrate with DH and friends. Dinner and dancing, while enjoying a 3-night hotel stay with DH in Manhattan.
On this day, I'm mixed with melancholy about my late friend (who was the best guy friend I had before DH), and reflecting on some of the heart-ache I've experienced within 25-years. I've realized one important lesson I believe: when you know someone truly, deeply loves you, you better hold on and fight for it at all costs. And that no one can truly understand forgiveness until they're faced with having to forgive. Right now, I choose to forgive and love.
Posted Saturday, August 30, 2008 1:34 PM
So, combined with the cloudy over-cast, rainy weather now and my PMS-ing mood, and DH at work; the only thing I feel like doing is finding the nice comfortable nook in my sectional sofa, kicking my feet up and indulging in the chocolate chip ice-cream, which seems to be calling me from my freezer! LOL.
But, as my playful, baby parakets, (Ben and Jen), chirp noisily and annoyingly quarrel amongst themselves, they seem to remind me that I have some laundry to do and cleaning to boot!
But, honestly, it's really days like this, that I'm learning to savor some of the fact that DH and I don't yet have kids, and when we do, I'll have no choice but to get moving! But, other than the ice-cream as my main motivation today (hey, a girl needs a treat to reward herself from house-wife labor), DH and I should be meeting up in the city that never sleeps when he gets off work, to have dinner, and cherish our family of 2, well actually, 4 counting Ben and Jen...if they would just hush!
Posted Saturday, August 30, 2008 2:23 AM
So, this is my first official public blog post, and I'm actually surprised at how much I have to share!
So, I've had this friend for four years now, and she is the type of woman who has dreamed, and envisioned her wedding since she could scrapbook! She drove a couple states away to be there on my wedding day (which I genuinely appreciated), and was quite supportive in the first two years of my marriage, (I've been married for a little over three years)! But, in the last year, I can't help but notice a "change" in her attitude and tempermant when we chat about anything, but especially significant things DH and I have planned.
Her story is simple: she's been in a relationship with a guy for almost two years, and I just know she's settling for him because of her quest for the mighty ring. In the past year, I've made more friends, married couples, and even a new great single gal pal who is more mature than my friend. So, I can't help but wonder, how many of you Nesties have gone through a breaking friendship with gal pal who you know is hurting and jealous of your good married life? Is it so bad that I don't care to go out drinking every weekend anymore? And just because DH and I decided to stay in and cook on a cool fall night does not mean I "did nothing" over my weekend? If anyone's knows what I'm talking about, how did you deal?
She's genuinely a good person, but my DH comes first, and I've worked too hard at my marriage to let it suffer because a gal pal is pissed she must compete.So the question is, where do we draw the line between dealing with jealous single gal pals, and maintaining our marriage?
--Mrs. Whyte (Mswifeyforlife)