wedding dress woes

Posted Thursday, January 03, 2008 8:26 AM

So I scoped out the dress sale at David's Bridal today.  The game plan was to go in, and try on all the dress styles to see which one best fit my body type.  I already knew what I wanted.  I've known for a year.  I wanted mermaid/trumpet style that hugged my curves all the way down.  I did not want ruffles, tulle, princess, or anything that would be considered a "gown" over a dress.  I basically designed my own dress in my head and was not budging from that style.

So I started with the biggest, ugliest dress I could find.  One I had to wear a petticoat under.  Snort.  A petticoat is so not me.  Just like I thought: it was ugly.  Then I went down the line, getting closer and closer to my ideal style: A-line, sheath, tea-length, and finally, trumpet, mermaid.

I looked horrible.  I was fat and buldging where I shouldn't have been.  You could see the outline of my belly poof.  I hated it right away.  And I was devastated.  My friend (she's so awesome) kept trying to tell me that the style just wasn't right for my body.  But I knew I was right.  So I kept trying on that style, convinced I could make it work with the right dress.  I had done my research.  Curvy girls look good in mermaid dresses, I just knew it!

I was so wrong.  So I started trying on the dresses my friend picked out.  Second one in, and Bingo!  I think I found my dress.  Just to be sure, I tried on 10 more.  The dress I like is empire cut, with a band of beading around my bust that from far, looks like snow. It's a gown.  But not a princess gown.  It makes my waist look tiny.  It's simple, with no beading or design on the skirt.  It's on sale for $99.

So, by this time, we had narrowed it down to two dresses.  The cheap one. And one for $500 that did hug my figure but had a lot of ruching or bustles or whatever they're called on it that hid my figure flaws.  I tried on the last two dresses with adornments: veil, tiara, and fur wrap.

Then I reviewed my game plan.  It was not to buy a dress today.  A dress should be bought with your mother and MOH crying softly in the corner because you are so beautiful.  It should be bought because once you try it on, there would be no question about what you will be wearing on your big day.  That did not happen.  I looked pragmatically at my two choices.  I weighed the pros and cons.  I mentally reviewed my dress budget. 

I just could not get over the $99 price tag.  $99 would make my life so much easier.  I'm buying a dress for one day.  There is nothing wrong with the dress.  In fact, I look great in it.  My friend thinks so.  The saleslady admitted I looked better in the cheaper dress.  It matches my theme.  And it's so cheap.  Since our venue is eating up half our budget, I really have to cut back in other areas.  This would be a great cut-back.

So I took a million pictures.  And I put the dress on a 24 hour hold.  I took my friend out to dinner ($60 dinner, almost as much as my damn dress) and then I raced home to post the pictures on the internet.  I immediatley called my mom, and she got out of bed to look at the photos.  Then I called my sister (MOH) and she did the same thing.  Both said "yeah, buy it.  It's only $99."  My sister explained that most of her friends bought two dresses.  If I find a better one, I can sell this one.

So tomorrow before work I'm going to buy my wedding gown.  For $99.  I don't sound very happy about it.  But the more I look at the photos and the more I think about this dress, the more I love it.  I think I'm just upset that it wasn't my dream style.  So here it is, girls...what do you think?

http://i217.photobucket.com/albums/cc313/mattandjen2009/IMG_0128.jpg

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Comments

re: wedding dress woes

The dress looks absolutely beautiful on you! If anything, I think you are extremely fortunate because you found a gorgeous dress, that you look great in, and it's at a great price! That is a good thing!!!! For some reason us brides feel that a part of the definition of a wedding dress is how much it costs, but in reality you should just find a dress you love. So bravo girly! You found your dress!!!!

Posted by Ceventa    Thursday, January 03, 2008 8:22 AM


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Did they have a selection of dresses on sale to choose from?

Posted by alyfish    Thursday, January 03, 2008 9:21 AM


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I love it! It looks great on you! I can understand your disappointment not finding a dress you've always dreamed about the works with your figure, but I think you made out excellently with this dress and damn, I wish I'd paid that much for my dress instead of about $600!

Are you getting any accessories to go with it?

Posted by KermitClin06    Thursday, January 03, 2008 6:48 PM


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That dress looks great on you! If it feels good and it looks good, buy it. I wanted a mermaid/trumpet dress when I first started planning, but I have way too much of a stick figure to pull it off. But I absolutely loved the sheath that I decided on. Good luck!

Posted by laratnutwell    Friday, January 04, 2008 11:30 AM


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Don't stress that the dress you thought you wanted didn't work out.  I thought that I had found my dress at David's Bridal when i was there with my FSIL, but after going dress shopping with my Mom and Sister I forgot the original dress ($500) and went with a simple A-Line, similar to yours (which by the way ANYONE can wear an A-Line).

The Lady who owns the dress shop asked what I wanted how formal or informal and how simple or fancy.  After 10 dress I kept going back to the A-Line with siimple beading at the top and no frills.  I was extremely shocked when as we were getting order numbers, prices, etc. that the dress I LOVED was only $170.

I thought she was lying to me. How could a dress cost only $170??? Turns out that she stocks this particular dress in Ivory for the simple fact that if you are doing a simple gown this works great.  The secret to the price was that it is a BM's gown, defitely more formal!  

WOW- did I save money, help the budget, and also secretly enjoy people looking at the dress and "oohing" and "aahhing" saying how great it is when I know that I have a fantastic little secret about my dress.

As for the Mom crying thing.  Mine almost did, but knew if she did that I would.  Somehow I don't think she will contain herself tomorrow when we go to order it!

Posted by SugarBottom    Friday, January 04, 2008 7:40 PM


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I think it is really beautiful! For the longest time I wanted a mermaid dress also, but I am too thin to really pull it off. They always look so great on the models lol. That's such an amazing price though, I say congrats!

Posted by xlovebunnyx    Saturday, January 05, 2008 1:46 AM


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