Fiancee's Stressed
Posted
Saturday, January 19, 2008 6:34 AM
A few days ago, I called my mom and she said she was on the other line with my fiancee. She called back about 20 minutes later, and I was dying to know what they were talking about. I grilled my guy, but he was being vague by saying "Oh, just wedding stuff." I finally got the story from my mom.
She says he's totally stressing about the honeymoon I gave him to plan. Ha Ha. That was my plan. I figured I'd stress over the WHOLE wedding, and give him the tiny task of honeymoon to stress over. I'm going to let him flounder and fluster for another three months before I step in to help him. Boys, geez. They don't know how to do anything. He's also stressed about paying for the wedding. I have the goal that we each save $5,000 this year. I know I'll meet my goal no problem (I already have $1,000). I know he can do, if he puts his mind to it. He saves that much when he wants to buy a car. He can do without window tinting and specialized decks and rims for a year.
But the best part is that he doesn't want to move out of Las Vegas until after the wedding, since it will be easier to keep our jobs and save money on the move. He just doesn't know how to break it to me. For some reason, he thinks it'll break my heart.
A little background: Matt and I have lived in three different states together: CA, Alaska, and Nevada. It seems like every two years we move. I'm tired of moving. I love Las Vegas and all the great friends I have here. I also have great opportunities for my poetry, and am beginnng to make a good name for myself. I don't want to leave. Matt wants to live in the mountains (just not Alaskan mountains!), and closer to Sacramento, which means he wants to move to Reno. Our plan was to move to Reno in May and stay there.
So, he hasn't made up his mind yet, but I'm crossing my fingers he wants to stay in Las Vegas for another year. I would be over the moon if he does.
My mom thinks I'm being mean by letting him stress over the honeymoon. I say I'm being smart. I'm planning a wedding for 150 people, he's planning a week-long vacation for 2 people. He's out of my hair as I plan the wedding, but he's still involved. And I'm giving him the chance to do a very adult thing. It's kind of like when we go on a vacation together. I let him pack his own clothes, but I still check to see what he's packed, and I'll toss in a few extra pairs of socks or a forgotten pair of thermals. And his hat, he never remembers his hat. So I gave him an assignment and will check it later. Maybe he'll have a little empathy for me when he understands how hard this is. And I won't lie, I like seeing him squirm!