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Don't Be This Girl!

Posted Monday, March 31, 2008 10:41 AM

I stopped by my usual poetry reading tonight after work.  I didn't go to read poetry.  I didn't go to spend time with my friends.  I didn't go to get inspiration and to listen to other poets.  I went to give someone a Save The Date.

After the reading, everyone invited me to go to Karaoke and I gently declined, saying I had to get home.  I was climbing into my Jeep when it hit me: I've become a bad friend.

I've totally let wedding planning take over my social life.  Granted, I've been trying to save money by not going out much, and I have a lot of DIY projects to work on.  That's been my excuses. Scarily, these excuses are becoming a crutch.  A crutch I whipped out and used while not even considering the situation.  I was determined to get home.

And do what?  Surf the knot, paint my aisle runner, read yet another freakin wedding book?  Yuck!  I'm totally disgusted with myself right now.  I immediatly turned around, apologized to my friends, and had a great time at karaoke.  Which is something I should be doing more often.  Saving money and DIY are all good, but not when they've become the center of my life.  I need my friends again.

Have I burnt out on wedding planning?  Maybe.  Maybe it's my addictive personality going overboard on yet another project.  I just need to keep reminding myself that Moderation is key. 

Enough blogging.  I have an aisle runner to paint!

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re: Don't Be This Girl!

I'm very glad that you turned around!  So far I've been good and have not neglected friends for wedding.  I also do a "no-wedding" discussion day where I don't talk about the wedding at all one day of the week.  No matter how tempted I am to ask for advice or what-not, I won't talk about it at all.  I also make sure I open all communication to my friends with "How are you doing today?  How's your day going?" and listen to that before I say what I called DYING to tell someone.  They think it's funny and tell me all the time "You're the bride,it's okay to be a litle selfish SOMETIMES" but I can't and no one is mad at me for neglecting them!  I leave my wedding jabbering for here.

Posted by faemoon    Monday, March 31, 2008 6:29 AM


re: Don't Be This Girl!

So far I've been good too..before Spring Break I had lunch with a longtime friend, and once we get a GH3 replacement disk I'm going to (finally) conquer the 'easy' level! I'm a little guilty of hyper-planning, since FI and I want to do our e-pics in Alabama this May, but once we get that done, it's back to 'break-from-planning' time 'til summer.

And hey, just by posting this and saying you went to karaoke, is another step. You really HAVEN'T let planning take over! If you'd THOUGHT about posting this but didn't(because you were planning ;-), then you'd have issues =P

Kidding, of course. But I still don't think you've gone too crazy yet.

Posted by bluepoet2007    Monday, March 31, 2008 7:05 AM


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I understand where you're coming from - you're in "wedding mode"...its very cyclical for me - I'm in right now for invites.

Posted by Aukristen    Monday, March 31, 2008 8:06 AM


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Woo hoo!! Congrats for realizing it and doing something about it immediately (instead of saying that you'd do better next time.)  Weddings are so stressful, but your friends will still be there afterward.  I'm sure they understand.  After all, what are friends for?

Posted by brolvesrice    Monday, March 31, 2008 9:17 AM


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Good job!  I know it's so easy to be gushing over this stuff when you are pouring your heart and soul into projects and having to deal with organizing probably the biggest shindig of your life,  I too am trying to save money but sometimes, you're right, you just have to hang out like you used to.  People who haven't been married yet or don't want to be married can sometimes not get how all encompasisng this planning can be nor have an inkling just how darn expensive it is.  Plus, you've got to try to make so many people happy about different aspects of it that you are also putting on the diplomat role a lot more than ever before.   It's good to breathe every now and again and be the person you were pre wedding and will continue to be post wedding as well.  Good for you for posting though, and reminding us all to get a life!  Take care and good luck!

Posted by grlzpwr    Thursday, September 04, 2008 12:08 PM


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I'm a poet, a waitress, a dreamer, and an adventurer! I love life and I love to party!


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