feeling a lot less stressed out.
Posted
Tuesday, October 09, 2007 9:38 PM
well after a mini nervous breakdown this morning I think I have managed to put things back in perspective.
I am not reccomending that anyone try and plan a wedding from two different countries to be held in a city that you don't live in. Ha Ha it's hell. Again my wedding planner has been my saving grace. I can't imagine what she is going to have to deal with on our wedding day.
As some of you that have been reading my sporadic updates may know I am a Canadian marrying an American and things couldn't be any more confusing. We haven't started filing our immigration paperwork yet and I was really getting freaked out about it. But I have decided that we will have the wedding if it's done or not, approved or not and then deal with the aftermath, well after. I have formed a few solutions in my mind if we are not able to complete the legal side of the wedding.
but that wasn't before I almost went into melt down mode and started blaming everything on my poor FI. I don't know why I feel this need to be so in control of things that I can't control. Things will happen the way they are supposed to and that's all there is to it. We still have time to figure out alternate plans and as I always like to say to everyone, nothing is the end of the world.
I am really proud of myself that I managed to pull my shit together so to speak and remember that it's all about our love for each other. It's not about immigration (well at some point it will be but we can work around certain things you know?), it's not about a wedding dress, it's not about being in control of evverything. It's about us being together. He wants it, and I want it. but the more frantic and desperate I get about things, the harder I am to deal with and the more toll it takes on everyone around me, including my friends and family. and honestly giving myself an ulcer over the immigration paperwork isnt going to make it any different then what it is...