Serious Conversation
Posted
Thursday, March 13, 2008 6:16 PM
So I'm at work, and my guy calls me (he calls 2-3 times a day while at work, which I do love...hehe). He asks me what I'm doing, and I'm kind of trying to hide the fact that I was daydreaming about our wedding, but I can't, so I say straight up that I'm planning our wedding. I usually get really scared talking to him about it because it's a touchy subject for us. Especially about financing it. We're not rich, and neither are our families. We'll be attempting to throw this fancy shin-dig by ourselves. I'm hoping my parents will kick in a little mula.
He really thinks we should concentrate on our marriage, the day after the wedding; that we shouldn't spend so much money on a party. Right now, all I can think about is my wedding day: the flowers, the photography, the catering, etc. I KNOW he's right about what's really important, but I seriously can't stop dreaming and thinking about how to make our wedding fabulous.
Anyways, our conversation started out not so bad. He was telling me that his coworkers mentioned to him that we shouldn't say we're planning for a wedding when talking to catering. I've read this same advice in Bridal Bargains, but I'm still a little hesitant about leaving that information out. Then he started saying that he's still interested in trying to pull off a destination wedding. And while the idea sounded lovely, I just couldn't accept it as a possibility for my wedding. He told me the pros, I told him the cons. He said we could save money, but I said I still wanted the local wedding.
Usually, we end up not speaking to each other: him angry, me upset (always on the verge of tears). I really know that we should be most concerned with our life after the wedding. But I don't want to give up on this dream wedding, even though in reality, I'll only be really pulling off a fraction of that dream.
Brides-to-be: Any disagreements about the wedding costs? How are you taking on this huge financial burden?
Married Ladies: Any real regrets on spending so much money on your wedding? Were any of you in a similar situation as me? With regards to money, is there anything you would do different about your wedding?
Everyone: Send money-saving tips my way puhleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease!