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Wednesday, May 16, 2007 6:11 PM

Q: How do I keep from losing my single friends?

A: We admit, your friendships with the singles in your life may change after the wedding, but that doesn’t mean they have to disappear. (Hello, you’ve only tied the knot, not had a lobotomy.) We’ve found that the best way to maintain relationships with your non-married friends is to setup a time to hang out with them regularly – Thursday night cocktails, Sunday afternoon brunch – and don’t go overboard with the married life talk. Chat about the things you have in common that haven’t changed since the wedding.

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re: Q: How do I keep from losing my single friends?

it's tough...some friends are just not willing to accept their "secondary" position...i find myself frusterated and exauseted after trying to keep in touch...what if the friend isn't very encouraging or respecive of the new union?

Posted by Joshelle    Thursday, September 27, 2007 5:07 PM


re: Q: How do I keep from losing my single friends?

If your friends aren't receptive to this new chapter in life than that's their problems and own issues to deal with not yours.  I keep a monthly dinner with my girlfriends who are married and single.  I also try to keep a weekly date with my single best friend.  As long as your hangouts are dominated by marriage-related talk and you actually put them first when you do hang out than there shouldn't be a problem.

Posted by dragon_chica    Thursday, October 11, 2007 10:30 PM


re: Q: How do I keep from losing my single friends?

I had my long time best friend who was going to be a bridesmaid back out of coming to the wedding- still having a tough time with that.  She and another girl friend, both of whom I know would someday like to be married and have some anxiety around that, have really backed away. Have other people experienced this? I was shocked, horrifed and really saddened mostly.

Posted by Vivace72    Wednesday, October 17, 2007 1:01 AM


re: Q: How do I keep from losing my single friends?

This is an issue that I am having as well. My "best friend" that I have known since junior high continually gets mad at me if I can't hang out with her. Plus, I have a tough time telling her no when I can't hang out because I say no a lot and feel very guilty. Therefore,  I cancel at the last minute just because I don't want to say no or that I can't do it. She will then blame it on my husband and call him "needy" and talk badly about him. She and my other friends never come over to my house to hang out, but always expect me to go out and do the things that they want to do.  And they can't seem to take no for an answer and keep bugging me until I say yes. It is getting to the point where I resent them and don't think that our friendships can last. All of my best friends are single except for me, and I am begginning to think that I need to find a new group of friends who understand my new lifestyle. I just don't know what to do or where to meet new people.

Posted by jamie_r18    Monday, June 23, 2008 10:14 AM


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