I am one irritated pregnant woman!

Posted Friday, July 24, 2009 9:34 AM

Yup things are annoying me more than usual...

So last night MIL calls and talks to Danny. I ask him what she had to say and he tells me a few things... Then later while we're driving to our cloth diaper appt, I ask him again if she had anything else to say, he says "no not really, oh yeah I guess they're coming to visit Aug 15" - umm what? you didn't think that was important to mention before? I always have to pry him for any info. Usually I'm the one that talks to MIL and tells Danny what she says but when he talks to her I have to ask and ask before I get any kind of info. Anyways, now  MIL and FIL are supposedly coming 2 weeks before baby's due. umm I really hope they're not staying with us. I know that's mean but my parents and more importantly my brother may be coming down around that time, but we're not sure of the dates because of his treatment. And I don't even know if MIL asked if it was okay or if they just invited themselves??? I ask Danny for how long and he says " I guess till the baby comes..." I was kind of silent, I don't mind them being here in town but we agreed that we wouldn't have anyone in the house for the first week or at least the first couple of days. Then I ask Danny "You're going to make sure that they know we don't want visitors staying with us right after the baby is born right?" - of couse I get the "yeah yeah"... I told him that I already told my parents and I don't think it should be up to me to tell his parents. I really don't want people staying with us right after the baby is born. I already know it will irritate me.  I really want it to be just Danny, I and baby for at least the first couple days. I don't mind them coming to visit during the day but please don't stay in the house. Our house is small and it would be crowded and how do you let one set of parents stay and not the other? It would be like choosing sides... Anyways, I just hope they understand. And I hope that Danny tells them this sooner rather than later. 

I get to work this morning, and my coworker tells me he has "allergies" and that he didn't think it was a cold. I told him to stay away from me anyway because I really don't want to get sick right now. Well alittle after this converstion, he comes into my cubicle and inches his way closer to me and then is reaching over pointing at my screen to show me something to work on. Umm you could have just emailed me the work and not come over here to spread your germs.  You don't know how many times I thought it was just allergies but ended up having a full blown cold. Anwyays, I just told him to get away from me... hehe, he kind of got mad and went to see another coworker. I don't care, seriously, I already told you I didn't want to get sick - I'm 8 months pregnant, I will catch ANYTHING, why didn't you respect my wishes and stay away? He thinks I'm overreacting and maybe I am, but I've had a good share of colds during my pregnancy, I really don't need to get sick at the end. That really really irritated me....Seriously. I feel like just leaving work today!  Oh and this happened before I went to visit my brother, the same coworker told me he had a throat infection and that it wasn't contagious, well I ended getting the WORST sore throat and Iwas so ticked because I was visiting my brother who HAS CANCER and a very low immune system. Why don't people stay home from work if they feel like they're getting sick, even if they think it's "allergies".  We get SO many sick days here, use yours so I don't have to use MINE. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

I am one irritated pregnant woman! lol

UPDATE - I emailed my coworker and apologized if I offended him and explained (again) that I don't want to risk getting sick this close to the end of the pregnancy, he said he understood. I feel better about it now.... 

Posted by rlteddy

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re: I am one irritated pregnant woman!

Honestly, I don't care about choosing sides when the baby comes.  The only person invited to stay is my mom, and she will only be able to come for a few days b/c she has to work.  Yes a hotel costs $, but I have 1 bathroom and am going to be adjusting to a whole new world.  I am not sharing my small house with ANYONE!  And I think it's extremely rude to invite themselves over for 2 weeks right before the baby's due . . . I would kill.  I like my ILs and get along with them much better as time goes by, but I can still only take them in small doses (DH feels this way too).  If he doesn't handle it, don't be afraid to be the evil DIL - you're the pregnant one.  I know our big IL fights will happen after baby is here - but when it comes to my child, I'll do whatever it takes.

Posted by Mrs. Rachel A.    Friday, July 24, 2009 9:14 AM


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Your husband sounds like one of best friend's.  You really have to hammer away at him to get any information out :)  I think maybe our husband's are getting pregnancy brain too because too many times I've reminded Andy of something he said and he's like 'I did not!' and we'll 'argue' over it for a bit until he concedes that he said it.  D'oh!  

And as far as having ppl staying with you after the baby's born...here's my two cents.  I spent a blissful week in the hospital with Jax where it was nurses, me, Jax and Andy after work.  When we came home my MIL stayed with us and she was great because she is paranoid to step on my toes (or anybody's really) and so she mostly watched Jax when I asked her to (so I could shower/nap), went for walks with us, bought us groceries and cooked fantastic meals all the time.  The downside?  Her tinkering with my wall decor and just constantly scrubbing every nook and cranny making me feel like a pig.  The week after that my dad came and stayed with us and that was awesome too.  He didn't do much cooking but it was nice having him there to pretty much hang out.

The downside is having too many visitors.  I could handle having one parent at a time at the house who knew boundaries.  But when a plethora of people came I really wanted to rip my hair out and freak out.  Especially when they all come with their opinions on taking care of babies, changing, dressing them (that drove me insane; my MIL & SIL when together were constantly putting Jax in different outfits; excuse me he's not a darn doll) and just weirdo comments.

Sorry this got so long!  

Posted by lildahls    Friday, July 24, 2009 10:52 AM


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Mrs. Rach A, I completely agree on all counts. There is NO WAY I would let anyone but my mom stay with us after our baby is born. I don't know why people would think they are being helpful when really they are just toally in the way- this is a perfectly acceptable time for you to be selfish and demand your privacy and space!!

Posted by gemsong23    Friday, July 24, 2009 11:06 AM


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My sister is going through this right now....she loves her alone time at night, but during the day she said its nice to have people visit, but still she gets a bit overwhelmed.  Also she said she's not ready to be home alone with the baby yet, so when her husband is at work, she wants my mom there.

Posted by amccul20    Friday, July 24, 2009 11:25 AM


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I blogged about this awhile back...I have said no overnight guests for the month before the baby comes and no overnight guests for at least two months after. Our house is tiny, with 1 bathroom and no guest room, it just isn't comfortable. My IL decided they wanted to come out anyway, and so far they haven't complained to us about having to stay in a hotel. I was pretty firm about it. I know that I offended my own parents telling them the same thing, but that's just what's going to be best for me, my baby, and my sanity! Be firm and make sure he tells them your wishes! Hopefully they'll understand.

Posted by phinneygirl79    Friday, July 24, 2009 12:25 PM


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Your call, you know what's best for you and the babe.  Stand firm one way or the other and hopefully Danny will help by talking to his parents. GL!

Posted by Ashley T    Friday, July 24, 2009 12:32 PM


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I guess I was lucky I didn't have this problem, everybody was like you need time and space to adjust to your new life.

Posted by TheGregory's07    Friday, July 24, 2009 4:28 PM


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My DH and I were married on August 30th, 2008 in our hometown on a beautiful day - could not have asked for anything better. We welcomed our first baby on August 21,2009!


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