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The beginning of the end?

Posted Thursday, October 22, 2009 9:22 AM

Last night we had Seth's first shots and his two month check-up.  He pretty well cried the whole way there (that's what we get for booking the appt in the evening), then once we're there he eats and then acts fussy.  So we're in the room waiting and the nurse/receptionist comes in to weigh him and Seth is on my lap.  She says "Does he like to be held?" I say "yeah most of the time", she says "oh that's hard because then they get spoiled."  Danny just said "well when a baby is crying you pick him up." I'm sorry but what a moron. You work in a Pediatrician's office and you actually believe that holding a newborn too much will spoil him.  I AM SO SICK of hearing this.  I wonder if she thinks I spoiled him while I held him in my belly for nine months, maybe I should have tried getting induced early so I wouldn't risk spoiling him! STUPID.  People are dumb.  

Anyways, I started crying and breaking down right before she came in.  I've just gone through three weeks of evening crying fits and I think it's about time I broke down. Danny kept saying that I'm so strong but last night I had to let it out right there in the doctor's office.  Once the doctor was in I explained Seth's crying fits and as I expected he just said it was colic and they don't know what it is - gee thanks. He told me to try gas drops and gripe water. I think Doctors just say there's nothing you can do because they're too damn lazy to investigate.  I don't like this doctor very much. And I certainly don't like the nurse. I trust the lactation consultants and take their advice way more seriously then I do the doctor's... 

Surprisingly, Seth wasn't too bad last night. When we got home he was sleeping so I quickly ran a bath but two minutes after I got in he woke crying. Danny brought him to me and I fed him in the bath for quite awhile then we washed him up and I got out to care for my crying fussy baby. Danny went to bed at 9 and after that I was able to calm Seth down.  I nursed him while swaying back and forth.  I did this for over an hour, I watched modern Family, Cougar Town, and a bit of Eastwick while standing and nursing.  I was finally able to go up to bed at around 10:30! WOW that's a record. I usually get to bed at around midnight.  So last night was a good night and there wasn't as much crying as usual. I don't want to get my hopes up, BUT I am sooo desperately hoping that this is the beginning of the end to Seth's crying fits.  We shall see.

He's sleeping in his swing now! yippee! I really have to get our announcement cards sent - I've waited so long. And I have to get started on Thank you cards, I'm so behind in everything... 

 OH I forgot to add that Seth is 13lbs and 1 oz! Holy my boy is growing fast!!!!! 

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re: The beginning of the end?

Okay, I'm going to try to help.  I was there.  Boston cried EVERY SINGLE NIGHT from 5 to 9 for about 2 months.  I cried a lot too.  It is really hard, I know that.  But really, other than doing everything you can to figure out what makes him happiest (for us it was swaddling and holding his this certain way and giggling him) there isn't much you can do.  It will pass though.  Or you'll eventually figure out the best things to do to manage his discomfort.  Gas-X (or generic) drops are great if you think it's partly that (does his face get red and his legs go straight and tight?) and holding the baby not on his back helps a lot.  Hold him on his side, sorta the football hold.  As for spoiling your baby, I HATE when people say that.  A baby has no concept of spoiling.  They only know crying when unhappy and not crying when content.  Holding a baby is how you show it love, support, comfort, and trust.  Why would you want your child being raised without those positive feelings?  

Posted by edmo    Thursday, October 22, 2009 8:33 AM


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I agree with edmo...I'll know I'm going to be the type of mom that holds/wears her baby all the time. I don't think it's going to "spoi"l her at all. Ugg. Hope the big man calms down for you soon!  

Posted by Kim B.    Thursday, October 22, 2009 9:09 AM


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Right now my 7 month old is having crying fits at night and I finally figured out the one thing that really helps is gripe water. I think because of solids and iron in formula and cereal he is really gassy so the gripe water helps with it. My 2 friends swore by Ovum (I thinkthat whats its called - some kind of gas relief you can get at grocery stores in the baby isle) for their coliky newborns said it was the only thing that helped.

Posted by S&R Godin    Thursday, October 22, 2009 9:34 AM


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I think that's ridiculous that it spoils them esp. at that age.  I'm glad Danny said something bc if I had been in that situation I would have too.  Sometimes medical professionals say the dumbest things (a nurse at my old dr's office told me I should have planned my wedding/honeymoon around when AF came (i had asked her how to skip/time it) --> I almost collapsed from the dumbness of that comment).  Hope Seth gets better!

Posted by NithyaV    Thursday, October 22, 2009 9:26 AM


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Spoiling a baby is some silly myth that I wish would go away. Snuggle that baby all he needs it. Hopefully the crying will calm down and your family will get more quality sleep!

Posted by NikkiJ19    Thursday, October 22, 2009 9:36 AM


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Oooh, I hate that spoiling nonsense too. It really gets old! I don't really have any advice for the crying in the evenings. Lily did it for a few weeks at around a month old, but we figure out that it was because she was just so dang tired because she refused to sleep during the day. I had to force a nap on her twice and now she takes a wonderful nap every afternoon.

And I agree, a lot of doctors just want the easy way out, and nurses tend to speak before they think. I am so thankful to have FIL for our doctor! lol

Good to hear from you again today, and oh! My mom brought up seeing your baby. lol She said he was just too cute and had to tell you. I told her we decided he was the most handsome and Lily was the most beautiful. lol

Posted by LoveInCowboyBoots    Thursday, October 22, 2009 9:55 AM


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I knew a mom via Yahoo who used to tell me that I was spoiling Jax by running into his room at night when he was 2 months old and calming him down.  O.o  Ridiculous.  They can't self-soothe yet so what are we supposed to do?

Are you considering looking for a different pediatrician?  Maybe the lactation consultants can help you find one that's better suited to your views?  I remember in your last post you said that swaddling doesn't help and a pacifier doesn't either; have you tried running the vacuum cleaner/hairdryer?  A lot of times when Jax was all out freaking out we'd run those and he'd settle down pretty quickly; it works with Kara too.  Good luck!

Posted by lildahls    Thursday, October 22, 2009 11:05 AM


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Thanks lidalhs I'll try that!!!

Posted by rlteddy    Thursday, October 22, 2009 11:11 AM


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Oh yeah, about pacifiers - have you tried different kinds?  We tried SEVEN brands before he finally found one he kept in his mouth (that didn't gag him) and it's the only kind he ever takes even now.  Pacis help a lot with crying fits, if you want to keep trying.

About the changing table (I saw your comment to another blog) - Boston always loved his changing table.  I got the best pics of him on that table, always smiling and happy.  Of course now he hates it but that's because he's one and just wants to run run run.

Posted by edmo    Thursday, October 22, 2009 11:28 AM


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spoiling your newborn by holding him???? wtf?  that's ridiculous.  If Seth wants/needs comforting, you'd be a pretty crappy parent to consistently withold is.  Don't listen to the nurse... follow your instincts.  You're doing great.

Posted by Ashley T    Thursday, October 22, 2009 11:47 AM


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I know how frustrating those crying fits can be, Martha cries a lot. It was worse before we had her on a working medicine for her acid reflux, but even now she still has screaming/crying fits in the evening. Peter doesn't handle to crying very well, and he tends to just go to sleep and ignore it, leaving me to deal with her. I end up crying along with her sometimes. I've heard that colicky babies tend to outgrow it around 3 months. I hope so!

Wow, Seth is already 13 lbs! You'll have to post a side by side photo of him now vs. a birth day photo :-)

Posted by phinneygirl79    Thursday, October 22, 2009 12:26 PM


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edmo - we've tried about four different kinds so far,  And he pushes them all out with his tongue - it's almost like he has no idea what to do with it, We try it like almost every day lol.  Which one does Boston take?

Posted by rlteddy    Thursday, October 22, 2009 1:01 PM


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My DH and I were married on August 30th, 2008 in our hometown on a beautiful day - could not have asked for anything better. We welcomed our first baby on August 21,2009!


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