Tuesday, May 08, 2007 4:29 PM
Q. Low self-image?
Q. My wife has never been very sexually active. She doesn't feel comfortable about her body and appearance. This all is getting in the way of getting going sexually. What can I do?
A. The good thing is that you've identified her low self-image, so as a starting point you need to help her boost her confidence.
Take sex off the agenda for the moment, and look at activities and hobbies that make her feel good about herself. Give her loads of praise and compliments. Suggest she become her own "confidence coach" and learn to talk herself up if she's got a negative voice in her head telling her something like she's not attractive. Recommend she go to a department store to get one of their free make-up makeovers, and maybe some new clothes. A new outfit and make-up (and even a new haircut) can make a woman feel like a million dollars.
And try being romantic. Little gestures each day can boost her confidence -- things like compliments, love notes, candlelight at dinner, and a homemade romantic CD.
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Dr. Pam is the author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure