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Tuesday, May 08, 2007 3:48 PM

Q. Why does it hurt?

Q. Sometimes it hurts when we have sex. Is there something wrong with me?

A. It depends on what sort of pain you're experiencing. If it's after vigorous sex during which you two rivaled Olympic athletes with your stamina, then it's not surprising you're experiencing a little pain. Women can get a little bruised after such sex, but this clears up in a day or so.

If he's entering you before you're aroused and lubricated, it could be you're getting little tears and pulls in your vagina. You might need more time for foreplay, or maybe some lubrication from a product such as Astroglide or K-Y (which comes in a nondescript bottle with an easily peeled-off label). But don't be embarrassed -- there's nothing wrong with you. Do you know how many of these products get sold each year? If rough sex or lubrication doesn't seem to be the cause, then see your gyno. A longstanding, but easily treated, infection may be the culprit.

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Dr. Pam is the author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure

 

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re: Q. Why does it hurt?

Just know you are not alone! There are alot of women out there who experience pain but are too embarrassed to talk about it and get help. This is one of those issues that needs to be talked about more!!!!  See your doc though--and if you don't get answers, see someone else!  No sex is not the answer.

Posted by leilaansart    Thursday, December 20, 2007 7:58 PM


re: Q. Why does it hurt?

My doctor told me sex in some positions can be uncomfortable or a little painful because I have a slightly tipped uterus.  She said to try a different position and that has helped so far.. I tell my DH if it's uncomfortable or painful and he's more than happy to try something new or slightly change the position

Posted by luckyinlove<3    Friday, February 01, 2008 10:41 AM


re: Q. Why does it hurt?

For me sex can be painful due to endometriosis.  But the pain is there other times aswell. I too have a tilted uterus so i get where luckyinlove is coming from. I agree talk to a doctor. Especially if you've tried the lube and it's still not working. Don't be afraid just remember ob/gyns specialize it this field they've heard it many of times.

Posted by hiseverything    Wednesday, February 27, 2008 3:11 PM


re: Q. Why does it hurt?

I just had someone I know finally get an answer for this and she found out she has Pelvic Floor Dysfunction.  Her regular family doc and her GYN had no idea and she searched for almost a year before finding a specialist and is now getting treatment.  Her specialist told her that 1 in 15 women have this issue but are embarrassed to talk about it.  Look up PFD and see if it sounds like your issue --if so find a specialist in your area you can visit to see if they can help.  

Posted by leilaansart    Friday, July 25, 2008 7:49 PM


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