Thursday, September 27, 2007 8:04 PM
Q: Scheduling sex?
You asked: We both have crazy work schedules, and we hardly have time to eat dinner together, let alone have sex. Our sexual relationship is really important to us, but it seems almost impossible to find the time. This may sound funny, but how can we schedule in sex?
A: The crux of the matter is that married couples think they don’t have to maintain their relationship -- they assume their relationship will take care of itself. Yes, they have to maintain their rigorous work schedule. Yes, they have to maintain their responsibilities to friends, family, and others. But maintain their relationship? It doesn’t seem important. You assume your partner will always be there.
Keeping up a relationship means looking after the sexual side of things too. The great news is you both want to have more sex. But you’ve got to make some choices. That means prioritizing -- which involves saying no to overtime or requests from family members for your time. The next part is scheduling regular “dates.” These should be treated as sacrosanct. Flirt when you go out together. And try daring things like stroking each other under the table as you look at the menu.
Find out what the other likes when it comes to quickie sex. There’s nothing wrong with quickies as long as you’re both satisfied. And be creative -- find that one fabulous technique that does it for your partner each time. If it’s that good, you know you’ve got to make time for it!
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Dr. Pam is the author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure