Wednesday, October 31, 2007 2:20 PM
Q: Giving good oral?
You asked: I would love to be able to give my husband amazing oral sex, but I’m not sure how. I’ve done it before, but I really don't know what to do. I would be willing to do it more often if I felt like I knew what I was doing! Are there pointers that will help to make me feel more comfortable?
A: I hope your husband knows how much you're into giving him fabulous oral sex! I'm sure he would be thrilled! But I can understand your concerns -- they're very natural. People worry about all sorts of things when it comes to oral sex. Here are some tips to help:
Ensure you're both fresh -- you could begin by slipping into a shower together. Make it fun and sexy; lather each other up.
Next, when you get into bed together -- or wherever you're going to have sex -- take his finger in your mouth and ask him which kisses and sucks you try feel good. It’s highly erotic for him to see you licking and sucking his finger. And it helps you get the pressure right before you take his penis in your mouth.
Now take your time moving down his chest, giving him gentle kisses and flicks with your tongue. Never feel rushed! And never feel you have to go straight for his penis; a slow buildup helps so that anything you do will feel fabulous! As you work down his body, take your time around the base of his penis. You can nuzzle your nose there, and, in a sensual tone of voice, ask him what he'd like you to do next.
You could also take a little of your favorite chocolate sauce, yogurt, or honey and drip it down his shaft; then flick it off with your tongue -- just make sure this is something you’re both willing to try. While you're stimulating him with your tongue, you could blow his mind by using your fingers to run over his testicles and perineum.
I guarantee that if you take these tips and stick to them, he'll be incredibly satisfied. I really hope that he pleasures you in this way too!
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