Friday, June 13, 2008 5:18 PM
My husband likes a little backdoor action. Is this normal?
Q: My husband likes a little backdoor action. Is this normal?
I really don't like to use the word “normal.” What one
person would call normal would be abnormal to another. What's most important is
for both partners to feel comfortable. If one partner thinks it's abnormal and
unusual, then it needs to be discussed.
You should never be pressured into doing something that
turns you off. Feel confident in setting your boundaries. I hope your husband
isn’t pressuring you, but if he’s being loving and caring to you and says that
it simply turns him on, then why not consider it?
Many couples buy a “strap-on,” which allows a female to
penetrate the male. If you’re curious about your husband performing anal sex on
you, here’s how to get started. Have your husband get some lubricant, slip one
of his fingers into a condom, and tease and tickle you in your anal area. While
you relax, he could gently slip a finger in. How comfortable you are with this
gives you a good indication of whether or not you’d enjoy full anal sex.
If you decide you’re okay with it, make sure you empty your
bowels, wash yourself thoroughly, have good, durable condoms for him to wear
(to prevent tearing), and -- most important -- relax! Remember that he may not
be able to fully enter you the first time or even the first few times you try.
Be careful to avoid spreading germs from your anus into your vagina. To steer
clear of embarrassing noises, try to pass any gas privately in the bathroom