Friday, August 29, 2008 6:24 PM
Am I allergic to sex?
Q: Am I allergic to sex? What are some of the reasons that my sex drive is non-existent? My partner is still into it but I just don't ever feel like doing it and when I do, it’s a chore.
A: Whenever someone tells me this, the very first thing I asked them to do is look at their lifestyle. Do you work long hours? Do you have a long commute? Do you have lots of chores to do at home? Do you have any time for yourself? I think you can tell where I’m going with this!
Next, I ask the person how they respond to such stress in their life. Are you drinking because you feel stressed? Are you too busy to eat nourishing meals? Again, I think you can guess where this is leading.
If you’re extremely busy and not looking after yourself, your sex drive will diminish. The only solution is to reprioritize your life and let your partner know that you’re doing so. If he's beginning to think that you don’t find him attractive anymore, then this will show him that’s not the case.
Schedule dates with him and treat these dates like the ones you had when you first began dating. Don’t dwell on the stresses and strains of your life; instead find some lighter subjects to talk about. Slowly but surely you two can reclaim some romance, and that’s what will ultimately lead to a higher sex drive.