re: Should I say something about my husband's masturbatory habits?

amberleighm1 — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 04:44:59 GMT

Several things come to mind but I definitely wouldn't get bent out of shape based on what you wrote. How does your frequency of sex compare to the freuqency of his masturbation? If it doesn't mean you are getting less sex than you want, I definitely would not complain.

Does he usually ejacaculate when you have sex? Do you often finish or tire before he is really done? Perhaps he needs more stimulation than you are providing and he doesn't want to hurt your feelings by telling you that he needs more so he politely waits to masturbate until after he believes you are asleep. Maybe he respects all you put into your relationship and doesn't want to put any more requests to be fulfilled on your plate.

Regardless, you should regularly be having an open dialogue about sex, what is satisfying, what is turn-on's and turn-off's, fantasies you want to fulfill and consider mutually masturbation too.

Have you considered when he is masturbating to join in with him and you can weave your own stories together. Sometimes you need just one more O but it is too much effort to go through having sex again if he can go to his old standby method where most guys get off quicker and with much less effort.

I also think it is wrong to expect him to masturbate outside of the bed if you are in it. It is both of your beds and I hope that you will use this time to learn and grow with eachother.

btw my Husband thinks the doctor's advice is really messed up