The Nest

Family = Stress

Posted Monday, April 14, 2008 10:37 AM

My brother and his wife had a baby a little over a year ago. It was my parents first grandchild. I thought this would make the "When are you going to have a baby?" questions stop. Unfortunately, it made them worse! I am not ready to have children. We have discussed the possibility, and thought maybe in another year. Of course, I am not telling them that. I also just stopped taking my BCP (bad side effects), and started using FAM to avoid. I am not telling them that either, then she will think we are trying. I do want to have kids, but the more people ask me about it, the more I want to wait. We went over there yesterday to spend the afternoon, and my nephew was over. My mom fusses over him like crazy...."isn't he so cute" is said about 30 times. And when I don't respond on the 5-30th time, she thinks I am mean, and thinks I am jealous that my brother had a child. Ugh. I just can't take it sometimes. We have been married for almost 3 years, and we said we would wait about 5 years to have children. I remind my mom of this...and she just says " Well you never know, it may take you a while, and you don't want to wait too long" I am only 26!

I think to myself....what if I were really trying, and we were having trouble....someone could ask at just the wrong time, and make me start to cry. I think that people don't necessarily think about that...especially women. So, I am going to do my best to take my own advice, and realize that trying to conceive and or avoid is a couples choice. And unless the info is offered, try not to pry.