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Kind of lonely

Posted Friday, May 09, 2008 10:03 AM

Well, DH has been working every night for the past week, so I have been alone. Normally I wouldn't mind. It allows me to get some stuff done like cleaning, and yardwork, and reading. But, the house is spotless, there isn't anymore yardwork to do until we plant annuals, and I can't seem to get into a new book yet. I have been trying to keep busy, but feeling a little lonely. I went out shopping with a friend on Wednesday night. That was pretty fun, and I always love having girl time.

I think part of the reason I feel lonely, is because I am in a depressive state. We are trying to make ends meet right now. Things are looking up, but until then, I feel trapped. Sometimes, I hate being an accountant. It makes me so money sensitive. I deal with money and numbers all day, so its hard to forget about it when I come home. For all intents and purposes, we are fine financially, and will continue to be. I just hate the tough months.

Ever since DH's parents visited, I have been so worried about how he is doing. He seems more agitated, and quick to get upset. I am used to this after visits with them, but its worse this time. I hate not being able to cheer him up. It just gets me down. I know he will be better soon, just takes time.

We are going to my mom's for mothers day this year. I am supposed to bring some food this year. Usually she cooks everything, but we wanted to split it up this year. She really shouldn't have to cook everything on her day. Am I supposed to get my SIL a mother day card? Not sure of the protocol here?

So, our anniversary is next week. DH asked if we were doing gifts this year. I told him we couldn't afford to. (granted...I already purchased the watch :) He seemed disappointed. So I told him, he could you his own discretion regarding if he wanted to buy me a gift. We'll see. I think I played it off well that I wasn't getting anything because money was tight :)

I just need to cheer up a little. Things aren't really that bad, just amplified by my sad mood.

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re: Kind of lonely

I think the only people you buy Mothers Day Cards for are your mother, you grandmother, and then wives get them from husband's once you have kids, So you don't have to buy a card for SIL.  Aaron might be upset because of Mother's day coming up and his fragile realtionship with his parents.  Hopefully it will get better after the holiday is passed.

My best friend Elisa is an accountant.  I think this is the curse of your chosen profession.  She is constantly worried about money.  I know everyone is, but I do understand what you say when you talk about how badly it eats at you, because I see it with her.  I would say, try to put it out of your mind, but if you are anything like Elisa, until you have a huge savings and lots of IRAs and a ginormous 401k, nothing will make you feel better.

And maybe for your anniversary, instead of gifts, maybe you can go do something cute that you will both remember fondly, like go for a picnic or go out for ice cream and be completely simple for a day.  I love days like that with Matt.  We love going to the Garden where he proposed.  It is nice, most of the time quiet, and it gives us the opportunity to just talk.  

Posted by MandyE-worth    Friday, May 09, 2008 11:02 AM


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I get my best friend a Mother's Day card.  It's nice to show someone that you think they are doing a great job.  I've found most moms I know never receive enough of that.  My SIL got me a future Mother's Day card, and we are not close at all.  So I say if you are slightly close to your SIL at all, get her a card.  She is the mother of your niece or nephew, after all.

Posted by edmo    Friday, May 09, 2008 1:53 PM


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I sent Andy's sister-in-law a Mother's Day card the year she had her first kid - I thought it'd be nice if someone remembered it besides her husband. After all, her month-old daughter wasn't going shopping for her!

Posted by AirGuitarRockin    Saturday, May 10, 2008 7:53 AM


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