Wednesday, January 17, 2007 9:50 AM
The Single Friend Divide
by Kathleen
I didn't think it could happen to me: there's starting to be a big divide between my married friends and my single friends. My DH and I definitely don't consider ourselves to be very couple-y and are just starting to get comfortable with the whole double date thing (it just always made us feel so old). But I definitely sense a separation.
It seems to be more obvious in group getaways. My friend (married) planned a Vermont ski weekend for MLK weekend. Out of my big group of friends, the only ones who said yes were the married ones. The singletons said it would be too couple-y. We had a great weekend, but it was a little weird to be only with couples all weekend. I'm starting to feel less in touch with my single friends.
This article on keeping your single friends recommends making sure you go out for drinks or coffee with your single friends on a consistent basis. I definitely do this, but if I have to consistently have a one-on-one date with each of my single friends, I'll never have time for myself or my DH. It's just too exhausting.
Anyone have any ideas on how to stop the resentment (I heard through the grapevine that one of my friends complains that us smug marrieds talk about our in-laws all the time) and get the group back together?