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Friday, April 27, 2007 12:02 PM

Is McDreamy the ideal husband?

By Nest Riann

Is anyone else thinking about what McDreamy told Meredith last night on Grey's Anatomy? How he's not sure if he wants to be with a woman who doesn't try to "swim" (i.e. rescue herself)? He doesn't want to be the one to have to "save" Meredith all the time. At first what he said sounded cold, but it also got me thinking about how that mentality reflects the changing dynamics of newlyweds today.

 Is your husband a McDreamy, who wants you to be just as self-sufficient as him, and doesn't expect you to want him to be your knight in shining armor? Or does he like playing the protector? And spill it: Do you take comfort in the fact that your husband can "rescue you" physically and emotionally when you need it? I think that's what Meredith wants. Tell me what you think!

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re: Is McDreamy the ideal husband?

My husband totally wants me to rescue myself  and as a person I want that for myself as well but there is a small part of me that just wants him to show me he would rescue me just so I know he would if I needed it! In my life I just want be humored lol

Posted by Starynites    Friday, April 27, 2007 12:12 PM


re: Is McDreamy the ideal husband?

I am 23 years old and that is the best advice that I could hear from a guy in order to help myself and maintain a healthy relationship.  I am sure that when I get married my feelings will change but for now independence is the best thing for a person.  Support and dependence are two different things in a relationship. It is also so important before entering a relationship to be truly happy within yourself so you don't rely on someone else for your happiness.

Posted by Katie A.    Friday, April 27, 2007 1:39 PM


re: Is McDreamy the ideal husband?

I definitely want my guy to be a protector. He doesn't necessarily have to do it all the time, but I think I take comfort knowing that he could and would.

Posted by Jeanine321    Friday, April 27, 2007 1:53 PM


re: Is McDreamy the ideal husband?

What McDreamy said to Meredith is really his way of pushing her to love herself and be the best that she can be…and telling her that if she settles for anything less than swimming, she is wasting her beautiful self and potential… he knows how capable she is, and that’s a very deep form of love

If he was willing to rescue her all the time, then he would be willing to let her not believe in her own strength, and is that really love? In loving her, and pushing her to swim, he’s cultivating her strength and inner light.

Posted by Katie A.    Friday, April 27, 2007 2:00 PM


re: Is McDreamy the ideal husband?

I think you might have misunderstood or atleast that's not how I took his comment. I took it more like he didn't want to put so much into a relationship that could buckle at any time or that he'd have to carry most of the time. Which is totally understandable he's fully commited and it's a bit scary to knowing that the thing you are so committed to is so unstable. The knowing that if it got hard they would just give up.

Posted by CB91507    Friday, April 27, 2007 2:15 PM


re: Is McDreamy the ideal husband?

It's hard to find the balance between being independent and being taken care of; I want it all! : )  But I do believe that you can't really love someone else, until you first truly love yourself.

Posted by lizzie_nyc    Friday, April 27, 2007 4:15 PM


re: Is McDreamy the ideal husband?

What a great topic!  I think that times have definitely changed...the thing that I have learned from women in the past: always be able to take care yourself. Whether financially, emotionally or physically. Because in this day and age: ANYTHING could happen and you might have to stand on your own again. I  LOVE that my husband wants to take care of me emotionally, financially, and physically... and he does...but realistically, that is a lot for any one person to bear.  I think being partners means the having the ability--and desire--to take care of each other when needed. Mcdreamy doesn't mind taking care of Meredith when she CANT take care of herself...it is just hard that she won't take care of herself.  

Posted by royalbride    Saturday, April 28, 2007 3:33 PM


re: Is McDreamy the ideal husband?

My husband says he wants me to be a "swimmer", but yet he handles so many things...and I am trying to be more of a "swimmer".  As for Meredith and McDreamy, I think that her problem is her berating mother - her mother never showed her love - unconditional love that a child of any age needs!  and he needs to understand that.  But I partly wonder if he is trying to push her away because he is struggling with the thought of which does he pick - trying for chief or staying with her, which Bailey has already told him what the "smart thing" is, but time will only tell which he really loves more - his career or chance of a relationship.

Posted by Poohteach    Sunday, April 29, 2007 7:45 PM


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