No noooo no no no no NO.....this has BEEN going on before you got married.
And even so, what's the deal? Every single night???
When they pull the not answering the phone sh!t something is fishy indeed.
You also have an inconsiderate H problem and a no character H problem: you are ill and he still took off? Disgraceful.
Why has he got all of your money? don't you work? don't you have a savings account of your own with money you accrued in your single days? I don't get that...what's going on that he has all the money?
Something is wrong here --- get down to the bottom of this mess and pronto. I will bet you that he's off with another woman --- and that the affair with her has been ongoing and ongoing prior to your marriage.
And if that is the case, get this sham of a marriage annulled (not divorced). If he is having an affair this constitutes fraud.
If you can swing it and you can afford it, I'd get a private eye out after this bum. Something is amiss and something is very wrong. He's disappearing for a very very good reason and it sure isn't to spend time with buddies.