We would rather just celebrate the one

But if you want to celebrate both then why not compromise. Example for the dating one you could do a simple card with a thoughtful note. And the bigger plans could be saved for a marriage anniversary? But if he still doesn't want to then drop it and celebrate just one

 

Joy2611:

JessicaK12:

That's so cute! That's what I mean by celebrating! I don't want to do anything big! Some people ( not that there is anything wrong with it) get married after being together for 3 weeks, not 5 years like we did and I just want to recognize that. :)

 

My husband and I had been together for close to ten years when we finally married.  We haven't a clue when we met (it was freshman year of college at some point) or when we first started dating (again, college was a fuzzy time).  I don't feel the need to celebrate our togetherness more. 

I'm honestly surprised how many people are saying "This is when we decided to be exclusive" or "We went on out first date at this time!"  Hahaha - I guess I live in a totally different world.  We hung out together, did things, hooked up, hung out, watched movies, etc...  I wouldn't call any of those dates and we never had the "Okay, we're exclusive today!" conversation.  It just grew and we built a damn good relationship out of it.

It definitely feels a little high school - to me - to recognize dating anniversaries and stuff, but our relationship doesn't really have any of those milestones remembered.  I might feel differently if it did.

Per me previous post, this is me too.  I'm pretty sure we were married a few years before we went on anything that could be considered a proper "date"...and yeah I associate it with HS since I don't know any friends IRL who have kept track of that stuff in their serious adult relationships but they all did in HS!

I will mention it, but we don't celebrate it.  It's in the same month as our wedding anniversary. 

We don't actually remember the date.  Usually the first weekend after NYE, we call our dating anniversary.  As in "hey, we have been together for x yrs."  Kiss.  Move on.

My H and I knew each other for about 2 months before he had the courage to ask me on a date. Our first date is what we consider our "dating anniversary" and as this year, it has been updated to our "wedding anniversary".

We got married on the 7th anniversary of our first date. (June 23rd).

There is definately a difference for me between being a girlfriend and being a wife. It took a few months to feel the difference, but I am acknowledging those differences now.

Generally speaking, I couldn't ask for better

We got married in August this year and celebrated our dating anniversary in October. We went out to dinner since this is technically the "only anniversary" we have this year (ya I know the wedding was a fantastic celebration of us, but still) and partially because it's fun to dress nice and go out to dinner. Maybe some think it's "too high school", aka lame, but to us it's a special recognition of where we've been and what we've done as a couple. We like to remember the specific dates of the day we met and the day we "became official" because they were significant dates in our lives. Like a PP said, we wouldn't be married if those dates didn't happen! :) And honestly, I think that calling other people's recognition of specific dates "so high school" is, itself, "so high school."

bridejl:

We got married in August this year and celebrated our dating anniversary in October. We went out to dinner since this is technically the "only anniversary" we have this year (ya I know the wedding was a fantastic celebration of us, but still) and partially because it's fun to dress nice and go out to dinner. Maybe some think it's "too high school", aka lame, but to us it's a special recognition of where we've been and what we've done as a couple. We like to remember the specific dates of the day we met and the day we "became official" because they were significant dates in our lives. Like a PP said, we wouldn't be married if those dates didn't happen! :) And honestly, I think that calling other people's recognition of specific dates "so high school" is, itself, "so high school."

I didn't mean it as lame.  Just as something the people in high school do. I wasn't judging anyone who wants to do it.  It's just not on my radar because, as I said, I don't think I even went on a proper date with DH until we'd been together for 6 or 7 years and married for at least a few.

Joy2611:

I haven't the slightest idea when I met my husband or when we started dating.  This stuff just isn't important to me.

this. 

My husband and I place more emphasis on our wedding anniversary (10.08.11) than we do our prior anniversary which was when we first were declared a couple (03.17.02) but we do still acknowledge it.  We might still go out to dinner but no card needed, no present, etc.

Do whatever makes you happy!

Of course! We got married in September but our dating anniversary is in November. We dont do anything major for the dating anniversary but its nice to remember it and reflect back to how it all started.  I see no problem with celebrating both dates because both of them are significant to your relationship.  If you would like you can always do something bigger on the wedding anniversary date.

We probably won't celebrate it or anything, but we'll likely still acknowledge it, since this is our first year as a married couple.  It'll probably eventually fade off though.

We met on Valentines day so we make a big deal of celebrating it.

We only celebrate our wedding anniversary.  I felt pretty weird about celebrating our dating anniversary even when we were dating.  It felt like pretending our relationship was something it wasn't.  At the time, I felt kind of sad about starting the counter back at 0 after over 4 years together, but in hindsight, our marriage is so different than our dating relationship was, it seems only natural to celebrate our wedding anniversary and years of marriage instead.  

Golden42:

No, we only celebrate our wedding anniversary.

DITTO 

We do celebrate our dating anniversary. We like to because we aren't really sure when we got together (we were a FWB relationship at first). People used to ask us when we finally got together and we would say "September-ish." So we celebrate a month-long 'ish' every year. By celebrate I mean we go out to dinner and remind each other that it's ish month.

JessicaK12:

We just got married November 3rd. We chose November because this is "our" month. The month we first met (today November 15th, 2007). I want to still celebrate this anniversary as well as our wedding anniversary, but DH says that we only count the one. Do most couples celebrate both or just the marriage anniversary?

We decided that we will only celebrate our marriage anniversary on an annual basis.  Although, we do usually wake up the day each month and go "We've been married X months!", but that's all we've made of it and that will probably end when we hit one year.

As for dating anniversaries, we have been doing what we call "The day of 12" every month since we met.  We go out to dinner and I get her flowers.

Not that we do anything big, but I love to point out any significant date, if, of course, I remember it! The day we first met, when we got engaged, and when we married are the biggest three. It's fun to say' hey this happened today" and remember how you felt on that day. No gifts, maybe dinner out, maybe not, just taking a moment to lift up our relationship.

toothpastechica:

I still don't even really understand the concept of a "dating anniversy"...is that the day you met? the day you had a talk about being in a monogomous relationship? the day you first sleep with the guy?  What? I couldn't even tell you when we started dating because we started as friends and then became more then that over time and with the exeption of friends who got married way young...most of my married friends say similar things about thier relationships...that they developed over time and that theres not one day that they sat down and said "ok today is the first day of official dating" it seems kind of highschool to me to keep track of of that tbh.

 

tbh I think your thought process is a bit more junior high than the average folk. Just because you were besties and didn't remember the exact day doesn't make others knowing such things juvenile. You probably hold that thought because you were married very young. You were much more immature than a lot of people while making a life long commitment. Just because that's the case doesn't give you the "seniority" to tell people how "high school" something is. If anything I think you sound much more immature. I remember my husband and my first date, apparently I'm immature and high school like... Boy do I need to grow up!