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11-11-2012 at 1:14 PM
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how often do you talk to your parents?

I am wondering how often (on average) most people speak with their parent(s). I maybe speak to my parents a couple times a month, often I will reach out to them and they will never call me back. When I was younger (17) and I first moved out of the house they would maybe call me once a month, or every other month.

How often do you speak with your parrents?


  • every day (20.7%)
  • a couple times a week (46.3%)
  • once a week (15.9%)
  • every couple of weeks (9.8%)
  • once a month (4.9%)
  • every couple of months (1.2%)
  • a couple times in a year (1.2%)
  • once a year (0%)
  • never/not on talking terms/ don't know them (0%)
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11-11-2012 at 1:23 PM
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My communication with my parents varies....sometimes I talk to them a few times a week, sometimes I will go for a few weeks without talking to them. We all just get busy with life and that's ok. I actually talk to my mom more via email than over the phone - just shoot her a quick one to see how things are or how their weekend was....if H & I go away on vacation, I just let my parents know in case, god forbid, something happened while we were away and at least family knows how to get in contact. For my family this works....

We live closer to my IL's so H talks to his parents probably more often than I talk to mine, but even that varies too, depending on how busy everyone is. We see his family more often than we see mine , which bothers me a bit, but I´m sure we'd see my family more often if we lived closer too. I´m actually glad we live close to at least one set of parents because when the hurricane hit NY, H & I were away and had no way of knowing if our house was ok....his parents were able to come by and check up on the house for us....

 
11-11-2012 at 2:33 PM
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My dad died about 20 years ago, but I talk to my mom almost every day. She is one of my best friends. She is also older, and I just like to know she is okay every day.

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11-11-2012 at 7:07 PM
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Both of my parents are deceased but when my mother was living, one day couldn't go by without her calling and talking with my mother was like talking with my father. Miss them both so dearly.

My MIL calls my DH every single day! Sometimes 2-3 times a day and she even texts him on top of that. It's so annoying, but I never say anything.


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11-11-2012 at 11:19 PM
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For me it's every few weeks. My parents are a lot like yours, OP, in that I almost always do the calling. They call me much less often than I call them.

 
11-12-2012 at 4:30 AM
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we are just not phone people. Even before the internet, we never really talked by phone, and my dad HATES talking on the phone with people so I guess I got that from him ha ha. My mom is on Facebook so we communicate that way just about daily. We also have Sunday dinner at their house every other week or so.

DH maybe talks with his Dad every other week or so, his mom once a month unless it's around the holidays and then it's more because of planning. 


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11-12-2012 at 5:52 AM
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I talk to my mom almost daily (some days she hides in her room and doesn't talk to anyone) since she lives with us. My dad died several years ago, but when he was alive it was a one or two times a week unles it was the holidays and then it was more often. MY FIL lives a few miles from us and my DH talks to him or sees him alomst daily. And we either call my MIL and SFIL once or twice a week or they call us.
 
11-12-2012 at 7:27 AM
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Ok, this is a really moot question/point.  Because the amount of time one communicates with ANYONE (parental/familial relationships to marital to friendships) all depends on the individuals involved.

THERE IS NO CORRECT ANSWER when it comes to the amount/time.

The issues revolve around:

  1. Do the calls routinly interfere with the marital and/or nuclear family time
  2. Does the information exchanged crossing the line into personal information that a third party does not want others to know. 

Now, I talk to my Mother and BFF every other day or so.  I would probably look at a seperation if my DH even IMPLIED that HE did not approve of the amount of time I spent talking to people when my coversations never break the above two rules.

That is a classic example of an Abusive Partner. 


 
11-12-2012 at 10:18 AM
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My parents are divorced and I will admit I have favorites. I text my Mom more than I call, pretty much bc she has a horrible temper and attitude so I try to limit phone conversations. I talk to my Dad a couple times a week, always try to call at least 3-4 times.

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11-12-2012 at 12:44 PM
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since mine are divorced i need 2 answers.

mom-daily. we're extremely close.

dad-biweekly.


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11-12-2012 at 1:37 PM
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I hate talking on the phone so my speaking to my parents once a week is actually a compromise. I also generally email them once or twice throughout the week about random stuff and they respond about once a week. They hate to email, so that's their compromise. Fortunately, we're all motivated to figure it out.

Soon we'll be discussing adding texting (for my benefit) and skyping (for theirs), but I'm still going to be limiting "voice" contact to once a week. I just can't stand getting tied up in long, rambling phone conversations. Even visiting, you chat for 15 minutes or so before you get up and do something or something comes on TV. Or you're doing something and it inspires conversation...but on the phone, they just want to exhaust every topic whether we've talked about a million times before or not, whether there's anything new on that topic or not... Ugh.

 
11-13-2012 at 3:46 AM
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My mom comes every week to hang out with my kid for the afternoon. I probably talk to her at least once more a week aside from that.

My dad?  Once a month maybe?


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11-17-2012 at 12:58 PM
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I talk to my dad usually a couple of times a week, and see him at least once most weeks.  I talk to his girlfriend about once and week and see her once.  We do a Sunday supper thing most weeks- have since I was a kid.  My FI really enjoys going as well since his family is more complicated and it's stressful at times being with them.

 

My mother I talk to every few weeks. She lives across the country.  I didn't grow up with her and she is bipolar, so it can be really challenging talking to her.


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11-29-2012 at 10:04 AM
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I talk to my Mom and Dad on a daily basis.  The older I get, the more they have become my best friends.  I look forward to talking to them...they are cool people.
 
12-04-2012 at 5:17 PM
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I wasn't raised by my mom and we arent very close.  I normally only talk to her when she initiates it.  She normally calls once a month or so, unless there is a holiday or something special going on.

 I used to talk to my dad several times a week until he got remarried.  She doesnt like me so we only talk once a month at most....sometimes its longer.   

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