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11-01-2012 at 8:21 AM
Golden42
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Are there ever times....

When you kind of feel like you are ready to have kids? We have always said we want to wait for a few years, but occasionally I do think "maybe I do want them soon." DH admits that he sometimes feels that way too. Most of the time though, I am happy with our decision, and happy we don't have kids yet. It is just a weird feeling for me bc I was never one of those girls who were crazy about babies and kids. It's really the first time I've had these feelings.

 For those if you who do want kids some day, is this a normal thing?
 
11-01-2012 at 11:15 AM
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I'm going to go with "yes - it's normal".

I'm with you, I never thought I wanted kids...but then my little sister had two kids and more and more I think about it. I've decided I want to try for kids around 30 (which gives me 2 more years)...I have an IUD right now and see no reason to pull it out early. If I change my mind back to no kids before that time I won't be heartbroken, but I also won't feel like I've robbed myself of the newly-wed stage with my husband either.
 
11-01-2012 at 5:04 PM
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Doubts and what-ifs are always normal. 

How long have you been married? Definitely enjoy the newlywed stage, just the two of you, settle in your careers, spend money without caring every once in awhile, stay up late, take random road trips, etc. And then, after a few adventures, sit down and seriously discuss if you'd like to have kids. 
 
11-04-2012 at 5:42 PM
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I think it is completely normal.  We don't want any for a long time, but it doesn't mean I can't appreciate how happy they make other people.  As a couple, we are just taking some time to be selfish, and have the flexibility to travel and make spur of the moment decisions.  Sometimes, I too see a kid and say aww that's cute and then when I am doing something I would otherwise not be able to do, I think, man I am glad I have a niece and a nephew.

Good Luck, no worries.
 
11-06-2012 at 7:47 AM
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DH and I go through a "baby craze" about every 3 or 4 months. During that time (it usually lasts a week or two) every single baby we see is super adorable and we talk about baby names (Zoey Rebecca and Archer Alexander) and nursery colors (Gray with teal and an orange-y color). Then we will be sitting in church or at a restaurant (or heaven forbid a movie theater!!) and we'll hear a baby screaming and look at each other and say "want a baby?" and then we'll laugh and roll our eyes and say we're glad we didn't TTC yet.

So, yes, it's normal. Smile
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11-08-2012 at 1:39 PM
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I feel exactly the same way! H and I have only been married for 5 months but now more than before we got married we get the baby bug every once in awhile. I think it also has to do with that we just bought a house so we feel more settled than ever.  We gave ourselves a baby timeline and we plan on sticking to it but the thought of having a family does feel exciting.
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11-13-2012 at 7:20 PM
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I think it's completely normal. I think a big part of the reason I sometimes think I want kids now, as opposed to later,  is that all of my friends and everyone on Facebook is having kids. I see them post all these fun photos of things they're doing with their kids and all these experiences I'm not having. But realistically, I know that they're posting the highs on FB, and excluding the lows. I'm not really ready to spend nine months sick, have a super painful delivery, and then spend the next 20 years buying things for my child instead of myself. I want a few more years to be selfish.
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11-13-2012 at 10:11 PM
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I'm new here but I thought I'd throw my thoughts into the ring. DH and I have been married for just over 2 years, (together for 8yrs) we bought our house just over a year ago, and have 2 lovely furkids. (a dog and a cat that get along very well lol)

For our entire relationship I said I didn't want kids. Don't get me wrong, I love kids! I have worked in multiple day cares, summer camps, and before and afterschool programs. I also started babysitting at the age of 11, and I have worked with kids from infants, up to behavioral teenagers. I just never wanted any of my own. Every once in a while tho, I would see a baby and I would have the thought "I MIGHT want one SOMEDAY"

Recently, it seems everyone around me is having a baby, and I believe I have caught the bug. For probably about 6 months I have been having the thought that I could have a baby. I kept pushing it aside, saying I dont really want them, I like my sleep and my $$ in the bank. But the thought kept comming back that I want one. I recently talked to DH, and we really talked about it...everything, and to my pleasant surprise, we are on the same page. Now we have a timeline (we'll start TTC in the spring), and goals to accomplish before then. We're going about it very conciously and aware of what we're getting into, and I couldn't be happier. You'll know that you're ready when the thoughts dont go away.

 
11-19-2012 at 1:05 PM
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It's definitely normal.  It's definitely not the right time for DH and I and I feel we won't be ready for a few more years at least, but I'll hang out with my friends who have kids or see some cute baby thing on Pinterest and it'll hit.  It really started happening once we got married because we have a house and good jobs and I'll think for a minute, "What's really stopping us?"  But I am definitely not ready.  
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