Thanks for all of the responses! We talked some last night and it got a little better. It was a lot of a communication issue. Yes, we agreed on the large purchases before they were made and most of them were made with money we received from our wedding. I was unhappy in my previous job, so when this job was offered to me, I jumped on it because it's not easy right now to find a job in general, let alone one where you're working with and for awesome people. I also like to do "housework" type things, I just didn't really appreciate what he said and the way he said it and was looking for some outside opinions and ideas. Thanks again!
How old are you? Because the bolded comment alone leads me to believe that you are very young/inexperienced or you have unrealistic expectations of the work world. The both of you infact.
Because cutting back your hours/income when you have debt JUST BECAUSE your not working with COOL people is not responsible money management.
And while I know that I am a minority here, but if you purposefully cut back your hours to take care of your house and you are not fulfilling those duties (and it is not like you have a kid to distract you OR make more messes) then like any other JOB (again this is because you CHOSE to take on the household) you open yourself to some critism.
So you either go get yourself a full time job, thus making the household responsibilities equal again or you keep the house up to standards. And yes, I do believe that when someone is working 20 or less (that is 4 hours out of the house people) there shouldnt be a load of laundry lying about or two damn dishes in the sink. When I worked full time, I did not leave dishes in the sink or my laundry around.