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11-28-2012 at 1:15 PM
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Issue with my friend: WWYD?

I'm not a huge 'friend' person, I have about 4 close friends that I've known for years. I recently became friendly with my son's classmate's mom...she's sweet, though there are some things we don't agree on, but we're friendly and hang out occasionally.  

So, recently, I feel she's started to overstep boundaries, but I'm not sure if it's me or what.  She was going to drop something off at my house, and asked if my husband would be home (he works from home).  I said yes, she said, "Great!  Leave the door unlocked and just leave it in the kitchen, then Sean can help me rearrange the stuff in my car."  Um, no.  Sean is WORKING and doesn't have time to help you rearrange stuff during the work day.  Then she asked for his cell phone number to see when he'd be available...I told her I'd be available between noon and 2 and she could come then or not at all.  I didn't give her my husband's number.

We live across the street from a playground, and we met there one day to play...my husband called and said he had just gotten home.  She heard me tell my son that daddy was home and asked if she could use my bathroom...I said sure let's go, and she was like, No, no, I'll take him...Can you stay here and watch Peter? (her other son)...She took about 20 minutes so I headed home with her and my son and she was in the office trying to chat up my husband while he was on a work call.  She actually looked ANNOYED that I came home...I told her, very sternly, that we had to go out and it was time for her to head home.  She looked embarrassed and left.

She's texted me several times about coming over or having a girls night, but yet, Sean is always welcome...I'm getting annoyed by her behavior.

WWYD?   End the friendship?  Keep a distance or am I being a jealous lunatic?
 
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11-28-2012 at 1:36 PM
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Eeeee my red flags would be going off too. 

Honestly, I wouldn't bother pursuing a friendship with someone I felt I had to keep an eye on or lie to all the time.  That would be exhausting. Most of all, I wouldn't be friends with someone I didn't trust.

I would end the frienship. 

Oh and I realize this has nothing to do with trusting your husband, but I still wouldn't bother.
 
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11-28-2012 at 1:38 PM
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If what you're saying is true, you need to end this friendship. She is clearly crushing on your H. I would also explain to H that girlfriend obviously is hot for him, and that he'd better be aware so she doesn't put him in any uncomfortable or compromising positions.

When she asks why you're ending the friendship, tell her that her behavior makes you uncomfortable, and DH finds it creepy. Make she you point out that DH finds it creepy.
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11-28-2012 at 2:02 PM
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End it. There was absolutely no need for her to take 20 mins for a bathroom break
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11-28-2012 at 2:46 PM
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She's lucky she's not my "friend". Although I trust DH, I wouldn't trust her. 20 minute bathroom break, wanting YH's phone number? She must be crazy. End that so called friendship.
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11-28-2012 at 3:29 PM
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Extremely inappropriate. Time to move on and walk away. Why on earth does she need your husband's cell and where is her husband? 


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11-28-2012 at 3:39 PM
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tiffanysbride:
Extremely inappropriate. Time to move on and walk away. Why on earth does she need your husband's cell and where is her husband? 

 Her husband works long hours in retail...she always complains about him and how he's never around.  She also told me she was texting and chatting on Facebook with one of her exes, which made me raise an eyebrow...that is not okay in my book.

Friendship is over as far as I'm concerned and I will let her know why as soon as possible. 
 
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11-28-2012 at 6:29 PM
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Eh- hold off on "letting her know".  This is your son's classmates mom.  You'll see her/ be around her in the future.  Be careful what you do now.

Pull away, stop getting together,  be "busy" a lot - but I'd be careful on a friendship ending conversation.  Especially w/ someone this whacky. 

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11-29-2012 at 4:23 AM
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Back away.  Beatch wants your husband.
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11-29-2012 at 10:10 AM
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EastCoastBride:

Eh- hold off on "letting her know".  This is your son's classmates mom.  You'll see her/ be around her in the future.  Be careful what you do now.

Pull away, stop getting together,  be "busy" a lot - but I'd be careful on a friendship ending conversation.  Especially w/ someone this whacky. 

I agree on this... Don't have any conversation with her about it unless she asks. Just slowly pull away... Don't make plans with her, try to stay away from her, and act like you always have to go... For sure talk to your Husband so he is aware of how she seems, so if they do run into eachother he knows how to act towards her. If she does ask later on why you seem to be avoiding her, then just tell her. Good luck, I would not be too nice towards someone like that, I can be a bit b word if I saw someone trying to become too close to my man.. :) best wishes girl!!!
 
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11-29-2012 at 9:51 PM
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EastCoastBride:

Eh- hold off on "letting her know".  This is your son's classmates mom.  You'll see her/ be around her in the future.  Be careful what you do now.

Pull away, stop getting together,  be "busy" a lot - but I'd be careful on a friendship ending conversation.  Especially w/ someone this whacky. 

I agree on this... Don't have any conversation with her about it unless she asks. Just slowly pull away... Don't make plans with her, try to stay away from her, and act like you always have to go... For sure talk to your Husband so he is aware of how she seems, so if they do run into eachother he knows how to act towards her. If she does ask later on why you seem to be avoiding her, then just tell her. Good luck, I would not be too nice towards someone like that, I can be a bit b word if I saw someone trying to become too close to my man.. :) best wishes girl!!!

 I third all of the above.

Stop hanging out unless the kids request it, like they are begging to see each other. Make sure it's at someplace away from your homes if you do. Maybe even involve other friends of your child from class. Talk to your H about your concerns and her behavior. Keep him in the loop.
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11-29-2012 at 11:00 PM
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End it.  IMO friendships are built on trust and respect, neither of which I would associate with this woman's behavior.  This has nothing to do with not trusting your H, you shouldn't have to be on the defense all the time with your friends.  It reminds me of trying to play keep away.

Just distance yourself, you don't need her drama. 
 
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12-01-2012 at 7:19 AM
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Honestly I don't care if my friends have DH's phone number or talk to him when I am not home or even think he is going to arrange their car for them.  He is a perfectly capable of telling them no he is working. And we are all friends. 

However, it sounds like she is trying to be alone with your husband and the whole looking annoyed thing is a red flag. 

 
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