I am recently married. My husband has NO sex drive! He does have depression issues which he is on medication for. We were married 10/13 and have had sex 3 times since we said "I do". I tell him that I dont feel like he is attracted to me and I am can't help but take it personally. I try to initiate it but I don't get very far because he starts to fall asleep. I have no clue what to do! Anyone have any advice?
Again: communication is KEY.
Have you spoken to him about this issue?
What was your sex life like with him before you got married? if you were sexually active with him, how many times a week on average would you say you had sex with him?
I don't know how long you have been together, but if you are together a couple of years, I would say twice a week would be about average and just fine for frequency of sex.
It very well could be that his meds are killing his libido. he needs to speak to his doctor about this so that his doc can prescribe something else or adjust the dosage.
When you told him you don't feel attracted to him, what did he say...and what did he do as a solution to ensure your happiness? That's the big question here.
Again, he needs to speak to his doc to get his meds issue straightened out.
I am pretty certain that the no sex issue did not happen right on October 13. It was probably ongoing and that was when you needed to address the issue with him and that was when you needed to work on this issue together. You're supposed to be a team and you are supposed to equal partner on every issue that is essential to your marriage.
You equal partner for money, for housework, for finances -- and you need to equal partner for all things sexual and bedroom.
Discuss the lack of sex issue outside of the bedroom --- do it on a Saturday wnhen you and he can talk at length. make sure you have no interruptions. You might say something like, ":Honey, we had such a hot sex life and I would love to have sex with you more often. I'm thinking that we've got an issue where your meds need to be adjusted; it's a simple thing to do and we'd be well on the road to being hot again -- what do you think?" and then let him take the floor. GL.