you don't seem to like the way he kisses, as well as all the additional sex stuff (foreplay, oral, intercourse). Did you think he was a mediocre kisser before marrying him? Was there sexual spark then? Did you speak up about how you like to be kissed and help the situation improve?
To my ears you married a man who doesn't seem to care if you're enjoying sex. He seems to know you're not enjoying things at present, and isn't taking strides to change it. I hope that's not the case, but based on the brief post, it's how I'm interpreting it.
If you want to have a sex life you DO enjoy someday, there needs to be more commitment from him to learn. I'd definitely try books like pps suggested. If you can't get him to slow down foreplay alone, try games that slow down foreplay (most adult stores have some with dice or comparable playful things). Set up a date night where you have dinner in lingerie and only kiss/pet while you're feeding each other, then have sex. If you want things to change you have to take action, and may have to try really hard if he doesn't care much about changing this.
Note: I'm not a fan of abstinence until marriage partly for things like this. Sexual compatibility is sometimes a thing you can grow into, and sometimes just doesn't gel. The spectrum of how people like to be touched, talked to, kissed, licked, and screwed is HUGE. Just because you're a great match with your clothes on doesn't mean things will be great once they're off. For your sake I hope you can work this out.