it does sound like you rushed your relationship a bit. while it's not recommended, it isn't a terrible thing. it's good that you're both willing to work at it (seemingly calmly), and have invited outside help.
that being said i have a few questions which might lead to some things you can change or experiment with:
1. what do you mean when you're 'emotionally checked out'? what are you expecting to happen? you mention losing attraction for him, but what does that mean to you? is it just you don't want to get close to him? do you not enjoy his conversation/company? etc. define this a little better both for our sake to help you, and for your own piece of mind. what does "Better" look like?
2. what are YOU doing to make YOU happy? it sounds like you rely a lot on him to make you happy ...wanting him around more, going on dates, having sex etc. what you might not realize is that if you are unhappy elsewhere, your attitude might translate to those times when you're together. (not that i'm saying you are), but something like depression affects your WHOLE life, not just one area of it. Our lives aren't as compartmentalized as we might think. Perhaps you should make sure that you're spending quality time with yourself, and feeling fulfilled in all areas of your life (do you do fun craft projects, see your friends, do fun things with your daughter, cook if you enjoy it, shop or see movies, etc?) Sometimes I enjoy times when hubby is out of the house, cuz I can watch chick flicks and play computer games. lol he comes home to a happy wife!
3. are you taking care of yourself? poor food choices and lack of activity can lead to feeling apathetic or un-attracted to your hubby. I just went through this a bit. for about 2-3 weeks I didn't really wanna get close at all. Turns out - i just needed to work out more, sleep more regularly and eat more protein/veggies. i'm more energetic, happier, and suddenly enjoy cuddles and kisses a lot more. =)
*shrug* just some ideas.