I am wondering if there were any "legs" attached to your relationship when the 2 of you decided to get married. You've had ongoing problems with him, according to the content of your past posts.
He can't make up his mind, apparently. First he wants a separation, got it, it lasted a year and then he moved back in? (I wonder if he had a relationship going on with somebody else during that year you were apart, and now it's over, hence his moving back in and blah blah blah "let's make this work.")
Sounds like you don't want to be "left behind" -- all of your friends are marrying, so this schmuck is looking mighty fine to you again.
The post from 21/2 years ago --- and you weren't even married a year when this was going on:
I’m feeling especially negative right now so please take what I say with a grain of salt. And please understand that my husband and I simply cannot afford marriage counseling so that is not an option. My H and I got married on our 5yr anniversary. We’ve been married less than a year and have been living together a little over a year. I feel like ever since he moved in, things have changed. He used to live with his parents and brothers and basically did his own thing and was very in his own little world. I feel like when he moved into my place, he started treating me like one of his family members and just started coming home and basically ignoring me. I feel like he never wants to spend time with me, I feel like I’m very low in his priority list of things to do – like he cares much more about spending time doing his hobbies than doing anything with me. He takes no initiative with household things. For three months after he graduated college it was a huge argument just to get him to try to get a job - he had a Very difficult time with the transition into "adulthood" from college life (we originally meant to get married a few mos after he graduated but there was a problem and he graduated a semester late but we'd already booked the hall).
I feel like his mother, and that he likes me to “take charge” and just do everything. We almost never have sex. Throughout our whole relationship I’ve always had to be the one to initiate it so I guess that’s not really a big change. I guess I just thought he’d mature as time went on, and I certainly didn’t expect that he’d suddenly never wanna be around me after he moved in. We’ve talked about it a hundred times. He says he doesn’t wanna do any of the stuff I want to do. He says he thinks it’s normal that we just come home and “do our own thing” most days. I have to argue with him just to get him to say hello when he walks in the door! I don’t know. How much time is “normal” for married couples to spend together? Every day? We used to want to spend all our free time together just watching TV. Now I just feel like he’d rather do anything else. He doesn’t really understand how I feel even though we’ve talked about it a million times. As I said, he’s very passive and doesn’t take initiative so he doesn’t understand how I feel and what’s worse is he’s very hesitant and unsure of what can be done to fix it. Some days I just feel hopeless that I’m going to have the marriage I thought I was going to have. Am I being unrealistic?