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11-14-2012 at 3:01 PM
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getting the shakes

I got married a few weeks ago and had sex for the first time.  It took us a couple days to actually do it because I had a lot of pain when my husband was entering me.  On our third day of trying we succeeded and I had the major shakes/shivers after my husband finished.  I wasn't cold and they felt like full body tremours. I did start to shiver from the cold but the after sex shakes felt different and continued for a little while.  They have lasted as long as 20 minutes afterwards.

can anyone offer some insight as to what this is?
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11-14-2012 at 4:20 PM
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I should think these "shakes" are a mixture of nervous tension, fear of pain, muscle strain and unresolved sexual energy.....

 

.....I'm not sure who you wanted your message to appear to others but for me it comes over as almost unbearably sad and utterly dreadful!.....it sounds, in fact, medieval,.....quite lterally from a bye-gone age.    It sounds as if you had to lie there and 'think of England' while you were 'deflowered' by an ignorant and brutal husband...

 

Why were you "cold"?...did you have to 'do it' outside for some reason?

 

Sex is a sensual communication between people,..it's not about achieving full penetration, which is but one small part of the whole thing.

 

'Tarpy' will be here before long and she will say that she never believes in virginal wedding nights, and she will be right!....this whole sorry business could have been avoided with some forethought and sensible planning.   I'm  a man and I have been involved in removing a virginity or three, but I'm very glad to say that none of my experience was this awful!
 
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11-14-2012 at 5:26 PM
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Are you okay during foreplay? Is there foreplay (and I am not talking about kissing)? Are you nervous? I don't know your background but if sex was never talked about or was presented negatively maybe you are reacting to the sudden ability to be with your DH. All that said I would make an appointment with the gynecologist just in case. 

DH and I were virgins on our wedding night and it took a few nights for us as well. Mostly b/c I insisted that we didn't need lube, clearly that was a bad idea. I can honestly say it was far from great but full body shakes sound awful! I don't know that it has anything to do with being virgins. Sounds like anxiety and lack of communication. How does your DH respond?

 


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11-14-2012 at 8:26 PM
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My bf and I have both experienced sex shakes, but for US it's only ever manifested as nervous tension before or just starting with rather kinky sex-play nights. Since i'm willing to bet my life that wasn't going on with you your first (or third) time, my guess would still be the same reason. Nervous tension. 
When I was a little kid I used to tremble like that when someone praised me, because I was uncomfortable with the attention. I think you guys need to sit down and figure out how to make sex fun and fulfilling MUTUALLY. I agree that from your post it sounds like you're describing a trip to the gyno. After you husband finished? What about you! 

I doubt you need to worry about it. Just go have fun being newly wed and have lots of weird experimental sex and for the love of god figure out what you guys like, and do lots of it! 
 
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11-14-2012 at 11:20 PM
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I think that happened to me once, a very long time ago. Doubtful if it's anything to worry about.

I'm not gonna grill ya why you and he were out in the cold. Maybe from now on try a heat-friendlier atmosphere.:)

Lots of foreplay and lots of lube. And take it easy and go slowly.:)
 
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11-15-2012 at 8:22 AM
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first of all, I wasn't nervous or tense or anything.  foreplay was involved and i loved everything, including the shakes.  my husband likes my shakes becuase it's a positive reaction from me.   even with lots of foreplay i still get the shakes. 
i'm not saying it was terrible AT ALL.

our house is cold and we turn the heat down at night...
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11-15-2012 at 12:32 PM
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It could be that it's a shock to your body?The first few times I had sex it was like that but it went away after a short while. Maybe it just needs some time....Or contact a doctor if you're really concerned.
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11-15-2012 at 3:25 PM
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I've had that happen once or twice.  I think it's like people said- a combination of nerves and muscle tension.  Your hormones are raging and your body gets so wound up, I don't think it's anything to worry about.  As you get more experience it probably won't happen anymore.  It only happened to me in the beginning of our relationship.
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11-24-2012 at 9:47 PM
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It could be that you're nervous without even realizing it. That happens to me if I'm anticipating something like having an important conversation with BF, even before I realize how anxious I am. Sounds like something that will pass the more times you have sex. I wouldn't be too concerned about it right now.
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12-18-2012 at 12:50 PM
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If the shakes themselves were pleasurable in that "holy crap this is weird but still feels kinda good" way - I had that myself. The wedding and honeymoon can be very emotional/hormonal. It was not our first time on the wedding night, but it happened to me anyway. I was just so crazy from everything going on that I think body just flipped out. It still happens every once in a while if I'm really really excited and the sex is seriously amazing. In these situations I get really cold and get goosebumps right after as well - maybe its a blood pressure or sugar thing? 

If it bothers you and it doesn't stop once you guys get more comfortable - I would see a doctor. 

 Edit: I just did a quick google search and interwebz says the shakes could be releases of excess adrenaline that built up :)
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12-21-2012 at 4:37 AM
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I agree with the majority of everyone else. I think it's a combination of cold/ adrenaline. I know if I'm over-emotional (whether it's good or bad emotions), I shake all over like a scared chihuahua. In fact, I think I remember similar trembling after losing my virginity. You can always try a glass of wine or two after a romantic dinner to help (tipsy sex is awesome if you guys haven't tried that and are not teetotallers) to help. But overall, I wouldn't be too concerned, it should pass with time. Of course, if it doesn't you can ask your OB/GYN about the shaking. But yeah, it just sounds like all those emotions, (excitement, love, pleasure, pain, anticipation, etc) over-whelmed you a little and you got adrenanline/nerves shaky.    

Also, I noticed from your pic that you're as tiny as I am, and I don't know about you, but I shiver ALL the time from the cold (I know the trembling you're referring to is different). Maybe it's a petite girl thing??
  

 
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