I was trying to give some background on where he is coming from and his personality. As a psychologist, I can't help but try to understand people's behavior and the reasons for it. It's just how I function.
Name-calling is really unnecessary.
Since the relationship is going to affect my family, whom I am very close to, it IS business to an extent. And actually, my family's opinion was very important to me when I started dating my husband, after several very bad relationships where I did not solicit or listen to anyone's opinion. You're right, he doesn't need my approval, and unless he asks for it, I will not give him my opinion. I did wish him well, and then I went to what I thought might be a safe place to try and process my feelings about it.
I see I was wrong and that this is a place full of people who call each other names. If that's the type of people who are gold posters here, then forget it. Don't bother saying you won't miss me, it's mutual.