That is completely up to you.  Many people tell early because they think they would want the support of their family if anything should happen.  MH and I are choosing to wait until the end of the first tri to tell anyone for various reasons.

It's really a personal decision. We told our families at 5 weeks, mainly b/c it was Christmas, and we thought it would be a neat Christmas gift.

The main question people ask when telling early is - would you want to tell those same people if something bad happened? If the answer is yes, then there's no reason not to go ahead and tell them.

There is no right or wrong answer and it's totally up to you.  We told our friends and family between 4-5 weeks b/c we were just so shocked and excited we actually were finally expecting.

My feeling is, telling or not telling is not going to change the outcome of your pregnancy and I didn't want to have to basically hide 3 months of my pregnancy and not share the excitement with our families, etc.  I wanted to try to enjoy the beginning instead of worrying and keeping it a big secret (well, i still worry, but I try not to!)

And I also would want their support if something were to happen.

this is very personal decision. We've opted not to tell anyone until the first u/s. The real question you need to answer for yourself is -- would you want them know if anything went wrong? Some people don't want to have to "untell" later.

I told my family as soon as we found out. Mainly because we were so happy, we were afraid of letting the secret spill, and our parents finding out from someone else. and if anything, heaven forbid happend, we'd love the suport!

My SIL and BIL kept it to themselves, and had a miscarriage at 13 weeks. It was soooo shocking to the family when we all found out. ( she had to spend some time in the hospital and they needed help with older children) This is the biggest reason we decided to tell family early.

But it is a personnal decision! Good luck and CONGRATS!!!

It is totallly up to you, we told at 5 weeks!

Thanks everyone! You make some very good points. I feel better knowing I am not the only super excited mom to be telling everyone at 5 weeks along.

I just found out that I was pregnant and we told our parents 2 days later we told his parents. We had to because we were planning an August 09 wedding. I was gonna be huge in August so we just told them so we could move up the wedding, but it's your choice 5wks isn't to early.

I think it all depends on when you are ready.  There is never a set time to tell your family, just go by your instincts.

Hubby and I are waiting till next month to tell everyone.  We are doing this so we can be out of the dangerzone primarily, but also because my sister just had a baby and hubby's brother just announced that he and his wife are expecting.  We want the timing on this too be good, and also think it would be good to reveal the news on my mom's birthday.

Good luck!

We waited awhile to tell our families about the first pregnancy, but couldn't keep our mouths shut with this one. I do think its a good idea to let at least family in on it just in case if something were to go wrong. You'll definitely want their support.

I think 5 weeks is a little early - you practically JUST got your BFP I imagine... We told our parents right away, but nobody else until 12 weeks. Even then we waited until 16 weeks to make it truly "public" news. Wait until your risk of m/c is lower - less people you'd have to break the sad news to. JMO.

I think that totally depends on you and your relationship with your family. We told ours around 6 wks. but that was because there was no way I could not have told them if something had happened.

Like everyone said, it is a personal decision and there is no right or wrong answer... It's whatever you are comfortable with and want to do.

We didn't get our BFP until we were 5 1/2 weeks along. We waited until after we heard the HB at our 8 weeks, 1 day u/s before telling our family.

They are all long distance, so now I think we could have waited longer to tell them but at the time I was just busting and couldn't wait any longer!

Since then, I have told a couple good friends who I would want to be there for me if something happened, but DH has told NO ONE.

 

I WISH my husband would stop telling people. We found out less than a week ago and agreed to only tell our parents and he came home today and told me that all of his friends know b/c he told them. I got upset b/c I haven't even told my dad yet and he's telling friends....my sister lives with us and this will actually affect her life and we haven't told her yet, but everyone else under the sun knows????  I made him STOP telling people and explained to him that if something happens, now we have to give more people bad news and I hate sympathy from others. Needless to say I was quite irritated.

Here's how I look at it we told last time at 9 weeks and then miscarried and were very sad but glad for the support.  This time I found out at 3.5 weeks and we were like screw it, it we have another miscarriage we will REALLY need the support... I am now almost 33 weeks and fine so far... it is all about your preference

AS many have said, it's up to you, but I'm 6 weeks, just found out, ad I was way to excited to hold it in, so EVERYONE knows. It was great because people got so excited and they already have you in their thoughts and prayers for a safe and healthly pregnancy. It's great already having a strong support group, but again it is up to you. Good luck and Congrats!!!

We told our family and I'm only 5 weeks and 3 days pregnant.  We were just so excited we couldn't hold it in! BUT We're waiting until after the first trimester to tell anyone else.

 

My friend told me "Don't tell anyone that you're pregnant that you wouldn't feel comfortable telling that you've had a miscarraige." So that's why we're waiting to tell everyone else.

It's really up to you, but I do have a bit of a cautionary tale...We told my mom the day we found out last time and she blabbed to EVERYONE...and when we lost the baby it was so hard.  The worst of it was an aunt that came to our house on Christmas to "see the baby" because no one had told her we lost it months and months ago.  I spent the rest of the day crying, unaware that I was two weeks pregnant again.  This time my mom was told after we heard the heartbeat last week.

I think it depends on whether this is your first bfp, whether you are super close with your family/friends and would want their support if you m/c, how close you live to them, and whether there are any big holidays/celebrations coming up. For our first bfp, we really wanted to tell our parents *in person* and we live very far away. Christmas was the next big holiday that we would see them so we waited. Long story short, we had a m/c 2 wks before Christmas...this time around, we told my parents, brother, SIL, and very close friends right away. These are the people we will want to be there god forbid it happens again. My mom was upset that she didn't get to take part in the joy of the bfp for the first 9+ wks the first time and then basically only got to be there for the m/c...that's why we changed course with this second one. God willing it will not be an issue this time and everything will be fine.

There is no right or wrong answer. Go with your gut once you and DH agree on a plan. GL!
 

We told my parents at about 5 1/2 weeks. I couldn't stand not telling them about their first grandchild! We only shared it with very close family and a few friends before my 12 week appointment.

It's up to you.. if you would want them to be involved if anything happened.  5 weeks is pretty early, especially if you haven't been to the OB to hear the hb or see the baby on an u/s.  I had a m/c at 13 weeks and I thought I was "safe".

Your family and friends all know that miscarriage is a possibility.  The way I see it, the more people hoping and wishing and praying that everything goes well, the better!

With my first pregnancy, I told my family at 5 weeks, and asked them to please wait to tell others until we were further along.  Unfortunately, my parents were so excited, they immediately got on the phone and called everyone they knew.  When I lost the baby at 10 weeks, it made it that much harder when we had to tell ALL THOSE PEOPLE when they kept asking how I was doing, when the baby was due, etc.  I am currently 6 weeks pregnant and we are waiting until 12 weeks to tell anyone.  I want to tell our parents but in case something happens, I'd rather not have tons of people knowing again.  Plus, it's actually kind of like a fun little secret between DH and me :)

My opinion is tainted by two losses but I guess you need that kind of perspective too.

 My first pregnancy we told our families right away.  We thought "woohoo!  we are expecting!  we want to tell everyone!".  And we did.  And at 10 weeks we discovered our baby had stopped developing at 9 weeks. Un-telling people was absolutely heartbreaking.  And having people who heard through the grapevine ask me about my pregnancy weeks after I had my D&C was also heartbreaking.  I had to re-live it over and over and over.

This pregnancy we waited to tell family until 8 weeks and after we had seen a strong heartbeat on u/s twice.  We announced happily on Christmas day that we were expecting TWINS and that we were super excited but that we wanted to keep things quiet until 13 weeks.  Two weeks later we discovered that one of our babies had stopped developing about a week after our perfect 8 week u/s.  This time it was much easier because we called our immediate family, they were very supportive, and we didn't have a lot of people asking about the twins and me having to tell them that "one of them died". 

We just came out of the closet to our friends and co-workers about a week ago.    We were thinking of waiting until 16 weeks but figured that 14 weeks was enough time.  Obviously anything can happen but at this point I am showing and it is harder to hide it.

So... all in all...  My true advice is to only tell people who will A) be supportive in the event of a miscarriage and B) you will easily be able to get news to.  Tell family members not to make it "public knowledge" until later.  Because it wasn't calling my mom that killed me.  It was running into neighbors while walking my dog and them happily asking about my baby 2 months after my miscarriage.  THAT sucks. 

Sorry for the long ramble.  I just have unfortunately had a lot of experience with telling and un-telling.  I get very nervous for people when they announce to near strangers that they are expecting and are 5 weeks along.  Unfortunately, pregnancy loss is more common that we like to admit and it just seems so risky to their emotions IMO. 

DH and i told our families at 5 weeks...we just couldn't wait...when we were debating telling, i read a post from someone that said, god forbid something bad happen, but if it does you'll want those people's support then, so ya might as well tell them the good now! i thought that was a great way to think about it...GL if ya do!